Silver Lining

A loving community finding the silver lining.

“Some memories are unforgettable, remaining ever vivid and heartwarming!”

Leave a comment

13330343_603185663177458_289050716_n

Some memories are unforgettable, remaining ever vivid and heartwarming!” – Joseph B. Wirthlin

Back in elementary school, I was part of a group of friends that really enjoyed to play “pretend” and it was quite complicated. Everyday at recess, we would take turns playing different roles in what we called “the family.”

My most common role was a cat. My job was to stay in the house and watch over the “playful” dogs as the other people when out to the field to collect supplies, or grass. Even though it did get a bit boring just watching on a pole, I enjoyed it because I felt connected and included. A few months later, I moved and was forced to break away from the family I had at school.

Looking back, I feel like the game with a bit childish but it made me understand what it felt like to have people incorporate you and pay attention to you, something that I wasn’t very knowledgeable of. It was these memories that made me truly understand friendship and I still wish I could relive them every single day.

One time in my new school, I tried to reenact the scene with my friends. Although it was in completely different settings and different people, I felt like I was able to share some of my past with them. Yes, it was a bit awkward but we bonded closer as a group because of this. I’m really happy to have been able to revisit some of my favorite memories.

Challenge: Do something from the past

Leave a comment

13313763_571425456352813_1129144690_o.jpg

Challenge: Do something that you used to do when you and your friends were kids.


Leave a comment

Anorexia

Definition: An eating disorder characterized by abnormally low body weight, fear of gaining weight, and a distorted perception of body weight

 

Symptoms

  • Physical
    • Extreme weight loss
    • Abnormal blood counts
    • Fatigue/Insomnia
    • Low blood pressure
    • Swelling of arms or legs
  • Emotional/behavioral
    • Severely restricting food intake – dieting, fasting
    • Self-induced vomiting to get rid of the food
    • Fear of gaining weight
    • Social withdrawal
    • Refusal to eat

 

Statistics

  • Anorexia is common: there are more than 200,000 cases in the US alone every year.
  • Between 90 and 95 percent of people with anorexia are women and girls, and the condition usually arises in the early-mid teen years.

 

How to Feel Better

  • Once anorexia becomes severe, it can take over someone’s life. Make sure to talk to a doctor or someone you trust, because there are so many people out there willing to help you.
  • Remember that thinness ≠ self-worth
  • Take appropriate vitamin and mineral supplements – potassium and zinc are particularly helpful for making you feel better.
  • Don’t isolate yourself from your parents, friends, or people who care about you.
  • Resist the urge to weigh yourself! You’re beautiful the way you are.

 

Sources

http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/anorexia/home/ovc-20179508

https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/anorexia-nervosa

http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/anorexia/symptoms-causes/dxc-20179513

http://www.caringonline.com/supplements-for-eating-disorder-recovery/

Reflection

Leave a comment

13318969_260312054323917_994721812_n

If you’ve completed the challenge, let us know how it went! Have you been able to rekindle your relationship with an old friend, or get closer to a new one? Any feedback is appreciated 🙂

A Golden Chain

Leave a comment

13281980_601297316699626_1549895725_n

A Golden Chain – by Helen Steiner Rice

Friendship is a Golden Chain,

The links are friends so dear,

And like a rare and precious jewel

It’s treasured more each year…

 

It’s clasped together firmly

With a love that’s deep and true,

And it’s rich with happy memories

and fond recollections, too…

 

Time can’t destroy its beauty

For, as long as memory lives,

Years can’t erase the pleasure

That the joy of friendship gives…

 

For friendship is a priceless gift

That can’t be bought or sold,

But to have an understanding friend

Is worth far more than gold…

 

And the Golden Chain of Friendship

Is a strong and blessed tie

Binding kindred hearts together

As the years go passing by.

Letting go is perfectly fine

Leave a comment

13288756_569760553185970_1831644997_o.jpg

I once was in a very unhealthy relationship. It was one of those friendships that just seemed all pretty and nice on the surface, but in truth was in turmoil underneath. When I first met her, I thought she was amazing. She was nice, very outgoing and down-to-earth, and seemed like she would be fun to hang out with. So me being new to the school, I decided that I could be friends with her.

As time went by, however, things didn’t work out as I thought they would. She would get angry at the tiniest things, and if I made a mistake she would hold grudges forever. Other times, she would ditch me and hang out with other people when we had already made plans. Although she acted nice on the surface, and around others, she completely ignored me other times. I felt dismayed, and that she had betrayed our relationship.

We soon broke ties with each other, and I’m honestly so glad that happened. I thought that I would have to endure being friends, but in truth neither of us liked the fake relationship in the first place. I’m sure she’s truly a nice person, but we had differing intentions and personalities which were just not compatible. Now, I feel so much more better that we have gone our separate ways and moved on with our lives.

So if you’re feeling stressed out about any friendships in your life, don’t be afraid to let go. In the end, things will work out. You shouldn’t have to hang on to the negative things in your life at all, no matter who you are.

How to Maintain a Healthy Friendship

Leave a comment

13282174_259480327740423_163704987_n.jpg

How to maintain a friendship

  1. Show your appreciation
  2. Speak with each other often
  3. Have fun together!!
  4. Build mutual trust
  5. Handle conflicts maturely and appropriately