Silver Lining

A loving community finding the silver lining.

It’s OK to not know

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As a senior in high school, this is one of the most important times in my life. The college that I go to can determine a lot of my future, and that’s a terrifying prospect. Everything I do now related to college applications has to be flawless, or my life may end up ruined. Naturally, thinking about this is very stressful, to the point that I lose all of my motivation to work in fear of doing something wrong. I don’t know what I’m doing now, or what I have to do. I don’t even have a clear grasp on what I’ll do once I get to college.

It’s terrifying to be so unsure about something so important, but I can’t let that stop me. If I stop now because I’m unsure, then I really won’t get anywhere. I need to keep going, even if I don’t know, because not knowing is temporary. I’ll figure it out soon, but this is what I need to do now. It’s okay that I don’t know, and it’s okay if you don’t know something as well.

The point of living is to learn about yourself everyday, so you can’t have everything figured out right away. What’s important is that you keep moving and trying your best with whatever knowledge you do have, so you can learn what you don’t know. If you keep trying, you’ll get there soon. ~Patty

Change is needed…

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“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.” – Gail Sheehy

 

I am personally someone who loves stability. I like to know what my schedule is hour-by-hour, what events are coming up at least a week beforehand, and that I will not have to be scrambling through the day with lots of changes that will mess up my routine. Though stability isn’t a bad thing, it’s even more important that we come to accept change and how beneficial it is to our being. Think about it: We wouldn’t live in the world we live in today if we did not embrace change.
Gradually, I’ve come to accept change based on Sheehy’s reasoning. If we don’t change, we never really learn how to live. We end up just walking around as human beings, going through monotony and trying to live on the safe side. But change is all about taking risks, and the biggest risks pay off. One particular example in my life pertains to the dance duet style I chose last year. Though it was clearly out of my comfort zone (my friends and teachers admitted that it definitely was not a style they expected me to compete with), I flew with it. I experimented with it and had the most fun making that change and seeing how it would work out. That experience left me feeling more empowered and matured as a dancer and a person. Life cannot exist without change.

Carbon Copy

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Walking my dog through the neighborhood, every day blends together as if each day is an exact same carbon copy. It’s bland and unoriginal, but it’s the closest I feel to safety. I know exactly which route I will walk, I know exactly when the sun will set, and I know exactly which neighbors I can avoid if my dog decides to lose her mind and disobey.

 

One day, as I’m walking through my neighborhood, my dog slips off of her collar! It’s a whirlwind trying to find her, as I run up and down the rows of houses. I’m looking through bushes, ravaging through leaf piles, and confronting confused neighbors about my lost dog.
At last, I found my dog safe and sound eating some sausage by a dumpster. Although my routine was more wild than usual today, I realized that it made my day more spontaneous and exciting. The strive for constant perfection that I always had went out the window, and I realized that learning and growing requires trying new things and making mistakes. 

“Success Is Counted Sweetest”

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Success is counted sweetest

By those who ne’er succeed.

To comprehend a nectar

Requires sorest need.

Not one of all the purple Host

Who took the Flag today

Can tell the definition

So clear of Victory

As he defeated–dying–

On whose forbidden ear

The distant strains of triumph

Burst agonized and clear

– Emily Dickinson

Description: This poem describes how the one soldier who has been defeated understands success better than the whole army that was victorious.

Beauty and Insecurities

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Insecurity is something many people struggle with, often in both outer and inner beauty. However, these insecurities are just in our head. Be confident and shine your true self. You are beautiful both inside and out!

Our host for this week discusses insecurity and beauty and shares some stories of her own. We hope you enjoy! ❤

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The World Will Value You, Only as Much as You Value Yourself.

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There is a kindness in your eyes,

Always hidden by dark lenses.

It blackens your world by only a shade,

But hides the beauty

Waiting inside

A tenderness in the wonder,

Behind those eyes

You have so much to give the world

Yet Held back only by your own worries of self worth

Do not think that you aren’t good enough,

Because acceptance starts with yourself.

The world will value you,

Only as much as you value yourself.

Believe in yourself!

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Many times we are lead to believe that some things that we do can lead to big mistakes. I remember many years ago when I attended a summer camp with my best friend. During the camp, we were taught how to do many cool things like swim, ride horses, follow animal tracks, etc. The one event that I still remember was the thing called a “Future Tree” where we were asked to write down what we wanted to do in the future. At first, I was going to put engineer, because my dad was one and I heard there was pretty good pay, but the camp leader sat down with us and told us to really think hard about what we individually wanted.

Even though that was a very small and not life changing choice, back then, it really changed how I saw things. I started taking more risks and trying things out that might interest me. To this day, I can still feel the excitement I experienced. I began to hope for a different career and strive towards something that I can feel happy doing. Maybe joining that club instead of the one that everyone goes to might seem like a bad choice, but in the end, you are the one that will change your life. Take your dreams and wishes and do whatever to make them true. No matter how strange or crazy, if it calls to you, have hope that what you are doing is right.

The Road Not Taken…

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Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

 

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

 

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.

 

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

Don’t be afraid to talk to others :)

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Ever since I was little, I was always worried about speaking to people. I constantly worried (and still do worry!) that I would say something wrong and be horribly judged for it. So I never really said much as a child. Whenever I played games with my friends, they were always the ones to choose the game and what I would do in the game because I rarely objected. There were a lot of times that I wasn’t having much fun because of this, but I was too nervous to say anything, so I only objected when I truly did not want to do something. I lived this way until the 4th grade, when I made two friends who really wanted me to tell them what I thought about the games we played. They always worried about me and whether or not I was having fun. For a while, I still didn’t say much, until one day when one of them said, “Please tell me if you’re having fun. It really matters a lot to me whether my friends are having fun.” It really encouraged me to start giving my opinion more in things. She made me realize that my real friends wouldn’t stop being friends with me so easily. Today, I still worry a lot about what I say, but now I’m not afraid to give me opinion.

Rejoice in what you’re going through

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No pain no gain, right? Although it might seem like a grim way to go about life, it’s undeniably true. There are many who will give up everything for something and suffer unimaginable set-backs but in the end, they achieve their dreams and are happy. To them, however, it isn’t the end product that they remember the most, but the process of getting there. I have seen this with my own eyes. As a child, I remember listening to piano songs performed perfectly by professional pianists (alliteration not intended) and wishing I could play like them. My first piano lesson consisted of me getting to know the piano teacher and playing my first note on the piano. Although practicing was annoying, all I could think about was learning to play famous songs. It was the anticipation and the excitement that kept me going for 11 years. I learned Fur Elise, the Nocturne, and many more. Every week, I would practice and practice to a point where my hands would start shaking but I loved every moment of it, because with every minute of playing, I would get closer to playing more difficult songs. Now, I’m really happy to say that I have played the songs I wanted to but most importantly, I have learned frustration and experienced the patience and dedication that comes out of it. It is hard to suffer and it might seem dark now, but once it is over, the air you breathe in will be the same but it will be coming out of a stronger person. Stay strong!