Silver Lining

A loving community finding the silver lining.

Fighter

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Eleven when I nearly drowned.

He was watching.

I stepped on a sea urchin while snorkeling.

Spikes dug into my skin

like shark teeth,

currents of electricity

swam through my foot

as water swallowed me.

In my left temple, a pulse:

my brain pounding.

I could not breathe.

 

Thirteen when I met him;

swore I loved him.

He put his hands around my waist,

“A bit chubby here.”

His words stung like brine

pushing me underwater

deep into a chasm.

Seaweed groped my legs

coiling around my chest.

I could not breathe.

 

Fifteen when I learned to float;

tossed his words of shrapnel

into the ocean’s abyss.

I’m made of seaglass

Jagged, tumbled

Still shining.

Broke harpoons on my skin,

Snapped spears on my neck.

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Lifestyle Changes for Happiness

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  1. Drink more water! Experts recommend drinking half your weight in ounces of water.
  2. Journal! Think about the highs and lows for each day.
  3. Exercise! Even taking a walk outside will clear your mind and help you feel less stressed.
  4. Cook a meal! Knowing what goes in your food gives you insight on how you’re fueling your body and what it can do for how you feel throughout the day.
  5. Take naps (if necessary)! Getting enough sleep is important for cognitive functioning and happiness.

Change is needed…

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“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.” – Gail Sheehy

 

I am personally someone who loves stability. I like to know what my schedule is hour-by-hour, what events are coming up at least a week beforehand, and that I will not have to be scrambling through the day with lots of changes that will mess up my routine. Though stability isn’t a bad thing, it’s even more important that we come to accept change and how beneficial it is to our being. Think about it: We wouldn’t live in the world we live in today if we did not embrace change.
Gradually, I’ve come to accept change based on Sheehy’s reasoning. If we don’t change, we never really learn how to live. We end up just walking around as human beings, going through monotony and trying to live on the safe side. But change is all about taking risks, and the biggest risks pay off. One particular example in my life pertains to the dance duet style I chose last year. Though it was clearly out of my comfort zone (my friends and teachers admitted that it definitely was not a style they expected me to compete with), I flew with it. I experimented with it and had the most fun making that change and seeing how it would work out. That experience left me feeling more empowered and matured as a dancer and a person. Life cannot exist without change.

Carbon Copy

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Walking my dog through the neighborhood, every day blends together as if each day is an exact same carbon copy. It’s bland and unoriginal, but it’s the closest I feel to safety. I know exactly which route I will walk, I know exactly when the sun will set, and I know exactly which neighbors I can avoid if my dog decides to lose her mind and disobey.

 

One day, as I’m walking through my neighborhood, my dog slips off of her collar! It’s a whirlwind trying to find her, as I run up and down the rows of houses. I’m looking through bushes, ravaging through leaf piles, and confronting confused neighbors about my lost dog.
At last, I found my dog safe and sound eating some sausage by a dumpster. Although my routine was more wild than usual today, I realized that it made my day more spontaneous and exciting. The strive for constant perfection that I always had went out the window, and I realized that learning and growing requires trying new things and making mistakes. 

How To Get Things Done

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How to Get Things Done
1. Make a list, be detailed and prioritize them by importance. I like to make my lists either right before bed for the next day, or when I wake up in the morning. Mark if there’s something you have to get done today or this week. Feel free to use symbols to help you!
2. Reward yourself with a small treat each time you accomplish a task! Have some healthy snacks on the side, like nuts or fruit to keep you energized.
3. Remove distractions! In this day and age, there are so many things that can distract us. It takes an average person about 15 minutes to focus on a task, and if your phone keeps popping up with notifications, you’ll never get stuff done. Put your phone on mute and away from site. You can check it during your breaks or when you’re done. No emergency will come in a text message.
4. In the morning, set specific tasks you have to do that day, and make each a “must”. It’s not a choice, but it’s something you definitely must do that day. Then, you won’t spend time considering whether or not you want to do it later. For example, if you schedule working out for 30 minutes and don’t make it an option, but a mandatory thing, you’ll work out!
5. Get someone to motivate you. If your mind starts pushing you towards procrastination, get someone to stand by you and push you towards your goal. If possible, ask a friend to do it with you and keep you on track. You can plan a study date, set goals with your friends (finish our work before 7pm daily), check in with each other, or more!
6. Schedule and plan everything out. This will help you stay on track and continue being productive. Remember to give yourself breaks! Work with your to-do list and make it into a schedule. It also helps to have a daily routine that will help you get regular things done, like working out or cleaning your house.
7. Play music or focus beats in the background. If you’re the type of person that works better with music, make a good playlist and play it while you’re working. If you have to be focused, I also recommend playing these sounds while you’re working to keep you focused. They are repeating beats of soundwaves that keep your brain concentrated on the task at hand.http://mynoise.net/NoiseMach…/binauralBrainwaveGenerator.php

Hope these help!! Comment down below any tips you may have or if these are working for you 🙂

Relax

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Too often, we feel that we can only relax when we have time. When there’s a billion tasks on our to-do list, we think that we can’t stop or take a break. However, as Sydney J. Harris states, “The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” When you’re stressing out and your schedule is maxed out, remember to take a break.

 

Do something you enjoy and take it easy. Take a walk outside, watch some television, eat some cake, take a nap, play your favorite song, or dance. Without breaks, you can easily get stressed out and that’s never good.

 

When I have 3 hours to do 6 hours worth of work, I get really stressed out. I start feeling overwhelmed and I hate not being in control. I feel the need to squeeze the life out of my stress ball and type out gibberish in some soon-to-be-deleted documents. I’m sure many people have felt stressed like this before.

Instead of quickly running back into my pile of essays and tasks, I should take a quick breather. The break I spend eating some food, taking a walk outside, or listening to music will recharge me and help me function normally again. If I just keep trying to work, I would only stress myself out more and end up in a bad state. Breaks are needed!