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“Success Is Counted Sweetest”

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Success is counted sweetest

By those who ne’er succeed.

To comprehend a nectar

Requires sorest need.

Not one of all the purple Host

Who took the Flag today

Can tell the definition

So clear of Victory

As he defeated–dying–

On whose forbidden ear

The distant strains of triumph

Burst agonized and clear

– Emily Dickinson

Description: This poem describes how the one soldier who has been defeated understands success better than the whole army that was victorious.

Beauty and Insecurities

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Insecurity is something many people struggle with, often in both outer and inner beauty. However, these insecurities are just in our head. Be confident and shine your true self. You are beautiful both inside and out!

Our host for this week discusses insecurity and beauty and shares some stories of her own. We hope you enjoy! ❤

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The World Will Value You, Only as Much as You Value Yourself.

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There is a kindness in your eyes,

Always hidden by dark lenses.

It blackens your world by only a shade,

But hides the beauty

Waiting inside

A tenderness in the wonder,

Behind those eyes

You have so much to give the world

Yet Held back only by your own worries of self worth

Do not think that you aren’t good enough,

Because acceptance starts with yourself.

The world will value you,

Only as much as you value yourself.

Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

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Definition: a mental health condition caused by experiencing a frightening or traumatic event that causes stress and anxiety symptoms after the event.



  • Flashbacks and nightmares related to the traumatic event
  • Avoidance of places or situations that are reminders of the event, or feeling anxious or panicky in such places or situations
  • Symptoms of anxiety and depression such as feeling jumpy and “on the edge”, loss of interest in hobbies and others (see link to clinical depression and generalized anxiety articles for more symptoms)
  • Trouble remembering key components of the event



  • 7 or 8 out of every one hundred people in the world will experience PTSD sometime in their lifetime.
  • There are more than three million US cases of PTSD a year. Very common – you’re not alone!
  • Not everyone with PTSD had been in a war, shooting or other life-threatening situation. The disorder can result from seeing a loved one die or be injured too.


How to feel better:

  • Talk and exposure therapy
  • Have a support network – this can include friends, family, or an organized group of people who also have PTSD.
  • Exercise


Personal thoughts:

  • Some people put others down for having PTSD by saying things like “well, you didn’t even see combat so how can you have PTSD?” – not cool – you don’t have to directly experience a traumatic event to have the disorder
  • Don’t blame the person for not trying to get back to normal life after the event – it’s not their fault




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OCD: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder


Definition: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is a common and long-lasting disorder in which a person has uncontrollable thoughts that often recur and behaviors that he or she feels the need to constantly repeat.



  • Fear of dirt or contamination from shaking hands or touching things
  • Compulsion to keep things neat and orderly
  • Doubts about locking the door, turning off the stove, etc goes back and checks obsessively
  • Distress when objects are not in place or neat
  • Thoughts of hurting self or acting inappropriately



  • Approximately 2.3% of the population between ages 18-54 has OCD
  • Less than 10% of those with OCD receive treatment
  • 1 out of 200 adults have OCD, and twice as many have experienced OCD symptoms in their life


How to Feel Better

  • Consult a qualified therapist
    • Make sure to confirm your diagnosis
    • The patient will probably be prescribed some medications to help
  • Try to be as informed as possible about OCD
  • Accept these OCD thoughts to have a successful recovery
  • Postpone any rituals/actions that are done to fix the little things. Resist the urge
  • Have some scheduled exposure to the OCD thoughts so that you can have more experience in resistance



Social Anxiety

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Definition: a chronic condition in which the individual finds social interactions so difficult that he or she avoids them completely.


  • Emotional/behavioral
    • Fear of being judged
    • Worrying about embarrassment
    • Concern in offending someone
    • Avoiding doing thing/speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment  
  • Physical
    • Fast heartbeat
    • Trouble catching your breath
    • Muscle tension
    • Confusion or feeling out of body
  • Avoiding normal social situations (hard to endure)
    • Using a public restroom
    • Making eye contact
    • Attending parties or social gatherings
    • Initiating conversation


  • Social anxiety is fairly common: there are more than 200,000 new cases in the US every year.
  • The most common age group for social anxiety is wide, ranging from elementary school children to senior citizens. Very young children are rarely affected.

How to feel Better:

  • Don’t be afraid to get help! 36% of people with social anxiety symptoms don’t seek help until 10 or more years later. Social Anxiety can be treated, and many people find professional help beneficial.
  • Relaxation Exercises: Take deep breaths or meditate
  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT has been very successful. It guides a person’s thoughts more in a more rational direction, and helps them stop avoiding situations that cause anxiety.
  • Join a group: Anxiety is an unpleasant feeling, but no one has to go through it alone. Join a support group to meet new people and get through it together with them.
  • Medication: Medication can be used to treat social anxiety and minimize the physical symptoms like shaking or a rapid heartbeat.


Bipolar Disorder


Bipolar Disorder

Definition: a mental disorder that involves extreme mood swings ranging from depressive lows to manic highs


    • Manic Symptoms
      • Increased self esteem and grandiosity
      • Decreased need for sleep
      • Increased talkativeness
      • Irritability
      • Inability to focus
      • Increased risk-taking and goal-driven behavior


  • To be considered a manic episode: symptoms must be severe enough to disrupt daily life and are not caused by medication or substance use
  • To be considered a hypomanic episode (less severe than manic): symptoms are severe enough that other people notice, but it does not cause a severe disturbance in daily life


    • Depressive Symptoms
      • Overwhelming or constant feelings of depression
      • Lack of pleasure in doing things
      • Significant weight loss without trying
      • Excessive sleeping or need for sleep
      • Lack of energy


  • To be considered a major depressive episode: symptoms disrupt daily life and are not caused by medication, substance use, or a traumatic event such as the death of a loved one


    • For more symptoms of depression/depressive episodes, see [link to depression article]

Statistics and more Information

  • Prevalence: very common (more than 3 million US cases every year). You are not alone!
  • Bipolar disorder affects a wide range of ages, most commonly between 14 and 60 years
  • Sadly, there is no cure for bipolar disorder; however, medication and lifestyle changes can help you live a great life. Remember that your disorder does not define you – you are an amazing individual, and you should love yourself for the many strengths and blessings you have. 🙂

How to feel better: In addition to seeking professional help, here are some things you can do right now to improve your mood.


  • Avoid unhealthy relationships. This isn’t just referring to abusive boyfriends or girlfriends – do you have any friends who make you feel bad about yourself or constantly push you to do things you don’t want to do? If so, it might be time to reevaluate your relationships with the people around you and cut out those that are toxic to your wellbeing. Taking care of yourself is not selfish.
  • Get plenty of exercise and sleep. Both sleep and exercise have been linked to better mental health, although the connection might seem a little strange at first. While the function of sleep is still a bit of a mystery, it is clear that it improves mood and concentration, decreasing feelings of depression. Exercise gets the blood in your body flowing, giving you more energy. It also releases endorphins, which make you feel happy.
  • Food matters. See [link to 8 foods that boost your mood] for a list of tasty and healthy foods that naturally elevate your mood. Herbal diet supplements such as St. John’s Wort also appear to help with bipolar disorder specifically, but not much research has been done on them yet. So while herbs are definitely an option, it’s best to consult with your physician first.



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Panic Disorder

Definition: Often experiencing spontaneous, unexpected panic attacks, which cause periods of intense fear

Symptoms of a panic attack:

  • Palpitations, pounding heart, or accelerated heart rate
  • Sweating
  • Trembling or shaking
  • Sensations of shortness of breath, smothering, or choking
  • feeling of impending doom

Symptoms of panic disorder:

  • Sudden, frequent panic attacks
  • Feeling of being out of control during the attacks
  • Fear of future attacks
  • Avoidance/fear of places where attacks have occurred (agoraphobia)


  • Six million Americans have it; women are twice as likely as men to have it
  • Affects 1 in 75 people, mainly teenagers and young adults
  • May be genetic, but also caused by stress or past psychological trauma
  • Occurs due to the activation of the fight-or-flight response caused by epinephrine (adrenaline), but there is not always an obvious trigger
    • One common trigger is fear of having a panic attack
      • This often leads to agoraphobia (fear of places where panic attacks have occurred): ex. a panic attack at a subway station might cause one to avoid subways/other crowded places

How to Feel Better:

  • Tell others. Many sufferers of panic disorder do not notify loved ones about what they experience because they fear being told that it is irrational or fake. However, it is important to tell others about what you experience because support is necessary to get through.
  • Inform medical professionals. People with panic disorder often do not tell doctors about their panic attacks, but doctors can help you get through your suffering, and can prescribe you something to help if the panic attacks get worse. It is also often comforting as well to have a medical professional whom you can trust.
  • Use stress-management techniques, such as meditation, exercise, or cutting down on caffeine. Stress is a major cause of panic disorder, along with other anxiety disorders, so try to cut as much stress out of your life as possible to start feeling better!


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Generalized Anxiety Disorder

Definition: severe, ongoing anxiety that interferes with daily activities



  • persistent worries about small or large concerns that are out of proportion to their actual impact. Most people with generalized anxiety disorder realize that their worries are unrealistic.
  • inability to relax and let go of worries; feeling keyed up and on the edge
  • difficulty concentrating or feeling like your mind “goes blank”
  • worrying about worrying too much
  • indecisiveness, worrying about making the wrong decision
  • physical symptoms: fatigue, irritability, muscle tension/aches, trembling, nervous, insomnia, sweating, nausea, bowel problems, headaches
  • symptoms specific to children and teens:
    • excessive need/desire to fit in
    • perfectionism
    • lack of confidence and constant need for reassurance and approval
    • spending excessive time doing homework



  • Prevalence: very common; more than 3 million cases a year in the United States alone.
  • GAD affects twice as many women as men
  • People are most at risk for GAD between childhood and middle age, and the disorder usually develops gradually


How to feel better:

  • Exercise: Even if you don’t feel like it, try to get yourself moving, whether you’re taking a walk or playing a game of basketball with a friend. Exercise is a potent stress-reliever and can help elevate your mood, helping alleviate your feelings of anxiety.
  • Avoid alcohol, smoking, and coffee: sedatives like alcohol, nicotine and caffeine can make your anxiety worse.
  • Sleep: Make getting enough sleep a priority – it should be as important, if not more so, that getting good grades or doing other work. Sleep deprivation can lead to a slew of negative consequences, including impaired focus, coordination, and learning; higher blood pressure and risk for heart disease; and greater anxiety and depression. All around, you’re better off going to bed and getting the sleep you need than staying up those extra hours cramming for that chemistry test.
  • Face your worries: This doesn’t mean actually going out and doing whatever is scaring you, but it’s important to sit down with yourself once in a while and productively think about your worries. Go over the list of things that are giving your anxiety and ask yourself if those problems are solvable. If the problem is solvable, start thinking about solutions, and get ready to implement those solutions if necessary. If it’s not, that’s okay too. It’s not possible to be certain about everything that happens in your life, and uncertainty doesn’t mean something bad will happen. Everything will be just fine. 🙂
  • Professional Help: When all else fails, don’t be afraid to seek out professional help. Seeing a psychiatrist isn’t shameful – it’s smart. You’re getting the help you need and deserve, and you’ll feel better soon.


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