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They Don’t Deserve Your Anger

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Hurt. This is something I do often. Whenever someone is being rude or mean to me I still try to be nice to them. But sometimes I don’t know if I am hurting myself by doing that. Whenever these people make these rude or hurtful comments, I do get hurt but I just brush it off. I start to think of reasons why they are saying these things. I try to look at things from their perspective and justify that it is my fault.

The reason I do this is that “I don’t want to cause more trouble… they don’t deserve your anger”. Yes they are hurting me, but it doesn’t mean that I should be doing the same to them.

This is kind of weird but I compare what I do to Gandhi’s peaceful protest. He advised others to take and took himself the beating from the British while disobeying them. Similarly, I let them hurt me while I don’t succumb to their taunting. To be honest, they have made me more compassionate than angry. So, try to be nice whenever you can, being angry will only hurt you in the long run (since you may make some enemies or more scientifically it isn’t good for your health). Yes, it is hard, there were a countless amount of times where I wanted to talk back to them, but it will be worth it! 🙂

-Pizza

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Eleven when I nearly drowned.

He was watching.

I stepped on a sea urchin while snorkeling.

Spikes dug into my skin

like shark teeth,

currents of electricity

swam through my foot

as water swallowed me.

In my left temple, a pulse:

my brain pounding.

I could not breathe.

 

Thirteen when I met him;

swore I loved him.

He put his hands around my waist,

“A bit chubby here.”

His words stung like brine

pushing me underwater

deep into a chasm.

Seaweed groped my legs

coiling around my chest.

I could not breathe.

 

Fifteen when I learned to float;

tossed his words of shrapnel

into the ocean’s abyss.

I’m made of seaglass

Jagged, tumbled

Still shining.

Broke harpoons on my skin,

Snapped spears on my neck.

“Never judge someone without knowing the whole story. You may think you understand, but you don’t.”

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“Never judge someone without knowing the whole story. You may think you understand, but you don’t.” -Anonymous

You don’t know me and I don’t know you. That is the unfortunate truth. And as much as I would love to get to know each and every one of you (I really would!!), we will never truly know a person’s full story. Even if we do, we may not know the whole thing. Not only is it important to respect a person’s privacy, but we should not judge them if they decide not to share their story.

For me, these cases have never truly hit home. I do, however, know people who chose to judge others based on appearances or what they first believe. It’s not that they want to be mean or insulting to someone, it just comes out of their mouth, sometimes on accident. Situations like those make me uncomfortable. I know the importance of seeing the good in people, and I always try my best to do that. I give people second or third chances because everyone deserves that. We don’t know a person’s full story, so it isn’t fair that we judge them on what little we do know.

In those cases where we do know what is going on, it still is important not to judge. Someone may be going through a rough time, and the last thing he or she needs are judgmental stares. My friends always know when I’m having a bad day. They may not ask me why, but they do not judge me because of how I behave around them. Instead they give me a warm hug, which is definitely something that is always needed in a person’s life. (Besides, who doesn’t like a hug from their friends?). We should be there for others as a kind friend, not as a judgmental peer.

Tips on how to be accepting of yourself and others

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  1. Don’t be afraid to be yourself: people will love you no matter what
  2. Everyone is still trying to find out who they truly are: This is the time in our lives to figure out who we are. We cannot do that if we are constantly afraid of what others think of us.
  3. It is important to know when to stop: There is a fine line between making a joke and actually hurting someone. Unfortunately, it is hard to tell when you have crossed that line. Be careful of what you say and to whom you say it to.
  4. Understand the importance of being kind: Sometimes, when someone is having a rough day, it can help to be there for that person with a kind heart.  

Don’t let them get to you!!: The more we listen to what people start to say about us, the more we believe them, even if what they have to say is not necessarily something good. Keep in mind the kindness you have within you, and don’t ever lose it!  

Don’t judge

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“Judging a person does not define who they are…it defines who you are” –Anonymous

I have always been careful when it comes to my opinions. I know that what I say, no matter how innocent I may perceive it to be, can affect a person. I know this because I have been on the receiving end of judgmental looks numerous times. It does not have to be solely based on my outfit or how I look, but also who I am on the inside. I have a very extravagant personality–or I like to believe so–and I understand that that can sometimes set people off. Because of how they treat me or look at me due to this, I change who I am to appear to whatever pleases them. This isn’t right, though.

By judging me, you are not giving me “character” or “helping me find myself,” you are actually determining who you are. You are not giving me a fair chance to prove myself to this world. Instead, you are simply hurting yourself by showcasing what kind of a person you can be.

August :)

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Welcome to August! The month of fresh beginnings, transitions, and friendships. What are you looking forward to this month?

Family Is Not Always Blood

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“Family isn’t always blood. It’s the people in your life who want you in theirs. The ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile, and who love you no matter what.” – Anonymous

When people ask about family, we often assume it is the people related to us by blood. The people who live in the same house as us. The people we are obliged to love (haha). But I’m here telling you that in a sense, your family can be a choice. As the quote mentions, family really consists of anyone who will share with you their mutual unconditional love.

Therefore, my family isn’t just my siblings and my parents. My family includes: my closest friends who have been by my side when I was covered in tears (both happy and sad), my dance team that never fails to push me to my best potential, and of course my trusty pup who can cheer me up just by wagging her tail. These are the ones you want to call your family. And you have a choice of who you want to include in your family.

Cut out the negative influences, and bring in those you love, even if they aren’t directly related to you. Because family has no limits, and there’s nothing wrong with more love in the world!

Summer Memories

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Summer Memories by Teresa Dearing

Hot pavement burns the feet,

Cool green grass what a treat.

 

Sand stuck between the toes,

Sun burnt skin on the nose.

 

Cotton clouds floating by,

Baby blue paints the sky.

 

Kids running out to play,

School is out, happy day.

 

Summer smells fill the air,

As we play with out care.

 

Waiting lines, ice cream stands,

Young and old are the fans.

 

All nature’s running high,

Summers breeze brush the sky.

 

Pools and waves cool the skin,

What a day for a friend.

 

Tired, sleepy children cry,

Once more, they want to try.

 

Visit family, see friends,

All too soon summer ends.

 

Soon tired of summer’s heat,

Autumn brings cool relief.

 

Cool days turn green to gold,

Summer memories~we hold.

Everyday is a New Beginning.

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Everyday is a new beginning, take a deep breath and start again.

    This quote speaks to me on a whole new level. If ever you are feeling put down or stressed out, take a deep breath and start over. Everyday offers a new beginning; it is up to us to claim it and work to improve your fresh start.

My summers would always be filled with stress and anxiety because I felt that I was not “living to my full potential.” In other words, I never believed that I was doing anything productive. Although I am a person who prefers to spend the night watching a movie from the comfort of my own house, I would always feel guilty that I was not utilizing my summer break to meet some friends that are visiting from college or before anyone goes on a vacation to another country. Worst of all, I would always believe that I was not preparing myself for the upcoming year. Since I am someone who likes to get a head start on the school year, I would stress out if I was not doing something to help me with a class that I know I will have a hard time in. Little things like that would always have me wonder whether or not I was ready, or if I should give up parts of my break to focus on things I think I should be doing.

Eventually, I learned that there is only so much you can do. After long school year filled with stress and panic, it is not only good, but necessary to take the time off for one to relieve his or her anxiety. During days I felt that I was not being productive at all, I would tell myself to make a change the next day: go outside, paint something, read a book, anything that will help improve my productivity during the summer. If ever you feel like you are not being productive, try dedicating an hour everyday for you to do what you feel is necessary. If you are not able to, don’t freak out. Summer is there to take a break from the school year. You can always start over the next day.

My Room

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My room is a place of both solitude and friendship. It provides me with comfort during the most difficult and trying times, and amusement with friends during the pleasant and enjoyable times. The bright summer sun casts light and heat into the room through my big window onto my turquoise walls, brightening up the room and prompting me to turn on the fan. It is a time of friendship and joy; my friends’ frequent visits to my house bring laughter into my room, causing the bright room to somehow seem brighter and fight away the solitude that sprung up during the school year. Summer is a time of freedom to do the things I love and to immerse myself completely in happiness. Blissfully, I look out the window at sunset and see the colors of the setting sun, seeming large at this time than at any other time of day, the sky, tinted by the sunlight yet still blue in some areas, and the mountains, distant and green, dance in a glorious and magnificent choreography that makes me to wish that summer would never end.