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Too often, we feel that we can only relax when we have time. When there’s a billion tasks on our to-do list, we think that we can’t stop or take a break. However, as Sydney J. Harris states, “The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” When you’re stressing out and your schedule is maxed out, remember to take a break.

 

Do something you enjoy and take it easy. Take a walk outside, watch some television, eat some cake, take a nap, play your favorite song, or dance. Without breaks, you can easily get stressed out and that’s never good.

 

When I have 3 hours to do 6 hours worth of work, I get really stressed out. I start feeling overwhelmed and I hate not being in control. I feel the need to squeeze the life out of my stress ball and type out gibberish in some soon-to-be-deleted documents. I’m sure many people have felt stressed like this before.

Instead of quickly running back into my pile of essays and tasks, I should take a quick breather. The break I spend eating some food, taking a walk outside, or listening to music will recharge me and help me function normally again. If I just keep trying to work, I would only stress myself out more and end up in a bad state. Breaks are needed!

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The Greatest Weapon Against Stress

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“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” -William James

This quote speaks volumes to me, someone who (like most people) tends to overthink every situation. Stress is inevitable for all people, but we don’t realize that the majority of our stress actually comes from ourselves. One good example comes from my experience at dance auditions. Dancers go in, learn the choreography in a short amount of time, and prepare to perform in smaller groups in front of the judges- usually all under an hour.  Though I’ve been going to these auditions for almost two years now, the nerves that come from auditioning have never completely gone away. However, the best way I overcome these nerves is simply by choosing to think positively. I don’t think about how I compare to the other dancers, nor do I panic about how well I know the choreography. These little worries that come into your mind are just distractions, big “What if”s  that are not worth stressing about.

 

My first year of auditioning had me asking myself these “What if” questions, leading to self-doubt as a dancer. But the second year, I told myself that I was  an amazing dancer. I told myself that even if I went on stage and fell on my face, I would do it with pointed feet and a fabulous smile on my face. I told myself that I had no reason to put extra stress on myself; all I needed to do was dance. And it worked! I had more confidence in myself, remembered the entire combination, and was even hugged by my dance teachers who were surprised by my change in energy.

 

It’s natural to feel stress in a high-anxiety environment. But when you boil the situation down to its core, eliminating the stress you create for yourself, you can perform much better. We have the ability to “choose one thought over another”, so in everything you do, choose the thought that brings out your positive energy!


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Working to live… or living to work?

Do you guys ever get caught up in everything? You have to finish your work… meet all the deadlines… stay extra hours…

I know many people who say that they regret not making memories or not spending enough time with someone. They regret it because they got too caught up at work and never made the time.

Work is important… it’s the way that we are able to live and supply the necessities to our families. But whats the point… if you don’t even have time to spend with your family? If you are just earning but not even seeing your child grow up. Yes, by earning you can make sure your loved ones have a comfortable and peaceful life… but shouldn’t you be spending time with them too?

I am not saying that your should quit your job… I am just saying don’t let your job be your life. Make time for other things.. try to balance things out 🙂

Here is an amazing video by Prince Ea that outlines the same concept… Hope you all like it!

 

 


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Generalized Anxiety Disorder

Definition: severe, ongoing anxiety that interferes with daily activities

 

Symptoms:

  • persistent worries about small or large concerns that are out of proportion to their actual impact. Most people with generalized anxiety disorder realize that their worries are unrealistic.
  • inability to relax and let go of worries; feeling keyed up and on the edge
  • difficulty concentrating or feeling like your mind “goes blank”
  • worrying about worrying too much
  • indecisiveness, worrying about making the wrong decision
  • physical symptoms: fatigue, irritability, muscle tension/aches, trembling, nervous, insomnia, sweating, nausea, bowel problems, headaches
  • symptoms specific to children and teens:
    • excessive need/desire to fit in
    • perfectionism
    • lack of confidence and constant need for reassurance and approval
    • spending excessive time doing homework

 

Statistics:

  • Prevalence: very common; more than 3 million cases a year in the United States alone.
  • GAD affects twice as many women as men
  • People are most at risk for GAD between childhood and middle age, and the disorder usually develops gradually

 

How to feel better:

  • Exercise: Even if you don’t feel like it, try to get yourself moving, whether you’re taking a walk or playing a game of basketball with a friend. Exercise is a potent stress-reliever and can help elevate your mood, helping alleviate your feelings of anxiety.
  • Avoid alcohol, smoking, and coffee: sedatives like alcohol, nicotine and caffeine can make your anxiety worse.
  • Sleep: Make getting enough sleep a priority – it should be as important, if not more so, that getting good grades or doing other work. Sleep deprivation can lead to a slew of negative consequences, including impaired focus, coordination, and learning; higher blood pressure and risk for heart disease; and greater anxiety and depression. All around, you’re better off going to bed and getting the sleep you need than staying up those extra hours cramming for that chemistry test.
  • Face your worries: This doesn’t mean actually going out and doing whatever is scaring you, but it’s important to sit down with yourself once in a while and productively think about your worries. Go over the list of things that are giving your anxiety and ask yourself if those problems are solvable. If the problem is solvable, start thinking about solutions, and get ready to implement those solutions if necessary. If it’s not, that’s okay too. It’s not possible to be certain about everything that happens in your life, and uncertainty doesn’t mean something bad will happen. Everything will be just fine. 🙂
  • Professional Help: When all else fails, don’t be afraid to seek out professional help. Seeing a psychiatrist isn’t shameful – it’s smart. You’re getting the help you need and deserve, and you’ll feel better soon.

 

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Five Tips to Get Stuff Done

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  1. Make a list. Write down all the things you have to do, and give them different priorities. If a task is due in a few hours, label it H for high priority. If it is due in a few weeks, L for low priority would be good. Choose what works best for you.
  2. Remove all distractions. Since you’re seeing this post, you probably aren’t removing your distractions haha. Get your phone, time-wasting websites, and other distractions away from you so you can truly focus on the task at hand.
  3. Schedule breaks. Allocate a time to work and time to rest and take a break. These breaks can be short, 5 minute breaks every hour, and a long break after you finish your work, or 10 minute breaks every hour and half, or whatever works best for you.
  4. Get some snacks and lots of water. You will need some goodies to keep you going. Find some nuts or dried fruit, and fill up your water bottle. Drinking water energizes you and keeps you focused to work.
  5. Just do it! You probably have something you need to finish or work on right now. Just like and comment on this post, and go right away to your task. Get that stuff done 🙂