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Love yourself

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One thing that I struggle with the most is believing in myself. I often end up comparing myself to others a lot. This I feel like affects the way others see me. I am often shy or awkward in public situations. Not to mention, public speaking, to me, is a nightmare. But I have learned to deal with this and start to see that I should believe in myself. One quote that really resonates with me, especially when I am feeling down, is “if you don’t believe in yourself then no one will”. This quote is really blunt I guess but it does remind me to believe in myself. You know what I have come to realize is that believe in yourself is a really important part of being successful. Like the quote says if you don’t present yourself as confident, nobody is going to want to trust you in whatever you are trying to do. For example, you are trying to pitch a business idea but you don’t think yourself as worth or don’t think your pitch is good enough. This will show off in your performance. I this took me quite a while to learn…. Maybe some of you already know this. To be honest, I actually knew that I had to be confident but there is a difference between knowing it in your head versus knowing it in your heart. I have just recently started to actually believe in myself. It is never too late 🙂 Love yourself ❤ I promise you will thank yourself later 🙂
-Pizza

Don’t judge

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“Judging a person does not define who they are…it defines who you are” –Anonymous

I have always been careful when it comes to my opinions. I know that what I say, no matter how innocent I may perceive it to be, can affect a person. I know this because I have been on the receiving end of judgmental looks numerous times. It does not have to be solely based on my outfit or how I look, but also who I am on the inside. I have a very extravagant personality–or I like to believe so–and I understand that that can sometimes set people off. Because of how they treat me or look at me due to this, I change who I am to appear to whatever pleases them. This isn’t right, though.

By judging me, you are not giving me “character” or “helping me find myself,” you are actually determining who you are. You are not giving me a fair chance to prove myself to this world. Instead, you are simply hurting yourself by showcasing what kind of a person you can be.

Choose to See The Best

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The mirror tends to speak the
Truths that you’re too afraid to
Say out loud,
A blunt reminder of adventures lived,
Of years savored,
And of delicious moments ingested
Like fresh fruit,
Sweet and bright—
The mirror has no filter, but it’s
Most often just what we need—
Take a look and see…
Choose to see the best,
And do not fear its honesty,
But be glad that you’re alive to
Witness it.

—G. Boston


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Bumblebee

Many people may believe that you aren’t good enough… there will be a lot of people in your life who will say that.

But you just have to remember this fact: According to scientists, the bumblebee’s body is too heavy and its wing span too small. Aerodynamically, the bumblebee cannot fly. But the bumblebee doesn’t know that and it keeps flying.

When you don’t know your limitations, you go out and surprise yourself. In hindsight, you wonder if you had any limitations. The only limitations a person has are those that are self-imposed.

Even we are not aware of our capabilities.. We just have to do ourselves a favor of not to start thinking that we can’t do something… You CAN do it!

 

Found on: http://www.thelivingtreasure.com/forum/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1681

Beauty and Insecurities

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Insecurity is something many people struggle with, often in both outer and inner beauty. However, these insecurities are just in our head. Be confident and shine your true self. You are beautiful both inside and out!

Our host for this week discusses insecurity and beauty and shares some stories of her own. We hope you enjoy! ❤

Listen to the podcast below:

The World Will Value You, Only as Much as You Value Yourself.

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There is a kindness in your eyes,

Always hidden by dark lenses.

It blackens your world by only a shade,

But hides the beauty

Waiting inside

A tenderness in the wonder,

Behind those eyes

You have so much to give the world

Yet Held back only by your own worries of self worth

Do not think that you aren’t good enough,

Because acceptance starts with yourself.

The world will value you,

Only as much as you value yourself.

Nobody Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent

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Sometimes, bullies get to us. From a young age, we were all taught to ignore those making fun of us or “laugh it off.” Teachers and parents constantly told us to “ignore them” “tell them to leave you alone” or “walk away” and they all are great temporary solutions. It is not until we realize that nobody can make you feel like you deserve all those rude comments unless we let them. Confidence plays a major role in this. We have to know who we are if we want to be confident.

There have been multiple experiences in my life where I have been put down by someone else. In fifth grade, someone (a friend, nonetheless) told me that my naturally curly hair looked like a frizzy triangle on my head. After that day, I always wore my hair in a ponytail. In sixth grade, someone told me that my ponytails looked boring and dull. After that day, I always wore my hair in a braid or bun. In seventh grade, someone told me that my leggings were ugly and that I should wear jeans instead. After that day, I tortured myself to wear dark skinny jeans to school (but gave up after a week).

Those experiences definitely did not help my confidence. They made me feel less confident about myself. Soon, I realized that just because those people believed those things, does not mean that I have to believe those things too. After that day, I wore my hair however I wanted to. In freshman year of high school, I wore my naturally curly hair down for the first time since fifth grade. I found a way to wear leggings in way that made me want to take pictures of my outfits like how I saw inspirational models or actors do. I no longer worried about what others thought about me, just what I thought of myself. I did not let them make me feel inferior, and that definitely attributed to my confidence.

A story :)

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I have always loved the first day of school. I have no care for the rest of the year–just the first day. Everywhere you turn, excitement follows. To your left, you see a group of seniors, rejoicing their final year. To the right, a timid freshman holds her class schedule, attempting to find her next class within the four minute passing period.

 

I step off my bike, eyes scanning the crowd for my friends. All of a sudden, I feel a gentle tap on my shoulder. Well, “gentle” is not exactly the proper word to describe Kara.

“HI!!” she exclaimed, pulling me into a large embrace. “How’s your summer been? I mean, since last week.” Kara and I had just had our annual “End of Summer” sleepover with a few of our other friends.

“Busy, but great!” I laughed. “I forgot, who’s your first period.”

Kara watched me lock my bike to the rack. She took a moment to respond as she silently went through her schedule in her mind.

“Umm, Richmond? I think. Hold on let me check.” she said, fishing her schedule out of her dark Jansport backpack as I shook my hair out of my helmet.

“Yeah. It’s Richmond. For History. How about–” Kara paused.

“What?”

“Your hair. What happened to it?”

“Umm, oh yeah. I dyed it. Just a few days ago. Remember, I was telling you last week that I was planning on doing it before school started.” My hair had been jet black my entire life, but I decided it was time for a change and bought myself a DIY bleach and dye kit over the weekend. The dark, straight ends had been replaced by a subtle red blonde.

“What do you think? Do you like it?” I smiled, giving my hair little toss like how they do in movies.

“Yeah! It’s cool, I guess. I don’t know, blonde isn’t really my thing. I thought you said you hated what blonde hair would look like on you. Also, won’t your hair get really dry and frizzy?”

“Uhhh…I mean…I don’t know, I thought I’d just deal with it. And I never said I hated blonde hair.”

“Yeah, no, I know you like blonde hair, but like, on you…never mind, it looks great. Really.” Kara said, waving her hand in the air as if she was shooing her previous statement. “Hey, class is going to start soon, I’ll see you later, kay?”

“Okay. Bye.”

Coming to school, I felt so confident. I was proud of my hair; for a first time DIY dye, I thought I did a good job, but now, I wasn’t too sure. Kara has always been honest. That’s one thing I admire about her. So if she doesn’t like my hair, it’s safe to say that the majority of the people I will meet today will think the same. I rummaged through my bag, and stuck my hand all the way at the bottom to find a navy blue beanie I stuffed in there for this exact situation. I ran into a bathroom near me, hoping that the beanie will be able to fit my hair into it. Opening the door, I felt a sudden gust of air from the freshly cleaned bathroom, filled with the faint scent of Pine-Sol. I stood in front of the mirror staring into my dark eyes and pale skin. And then my hair. I curled my red-blonde ends earlier this morning. I vaguely remember the bright smile on my face and the sparkle in my eyes as I felt proud and confident of myself, ready for the new year. All of a sudden, the door opened as another girl walked in. She stopped as soon as she saw me.

“You okay?” she asked.

“Yeah.” my voice cracked out. I turned back to my reflection and surprised myself with tears streaming down my face.

The girl looked from my eyes, to my beanie, and to my hair. Then she smiled.

“It’s beautiful.” I must have looked confused because she nodded and pointed slightly up. “Your hair. It’s beautiful. Which salon did you go to?”

“Uhh, I didn’t. I did it at home.”

She looked confused. “Well, it looks amazing. Please don’t cover it up. It’s beautiful. Don’t lose your confidence just because of what one person thinks. All that matters is what you think. And I’m pretty sure you think it looks amazing. You have to be crazy to think that your hair doesn’t look amazing.”

I looked back at my reflection. The smile and shining eyes. All that matters is what I think.


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Potatoes, Eggs, and Coffee Beans

There are actually many different reactions that people have to different things. We all react to different things, no matter what it is. Many times I look at how others react to a similar situation as mine and think.. “Wow.. I should have done that”. Then I end up changing my reaction to have that :).. Although not exactly the same. During times of adversity we react. And the way we react during these times really shows how we are… who we truly are.

Here is a really cute story that talks about this:

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot.

He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.

After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?”

“Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,” she hastily replied.

“Look closer,” he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.

“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.

He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity– the boiling water.

However, each one reacted differently.

The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.

The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.

However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.

“Which are you,” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean? “

Moral:In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is what happens within us.

Which one are you?

The story was found on:

http://www.livin3.com/5-motivational-and-inspiring-short-stories

Beauty is Not Flawless

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Beauty is not flawless; it shines even through your flaws.

“Beauty is not flawless; it shines even through your flaws.”

So often, we associate beauty with perfection. It’s about having that perfect Instagram filter to make your skin appear sun-kissed and smooth, about maintaining a certain body shape that fills out a dress to what society wants, about creating a persona that is humanly impossible. Though there are many ways to create these fake personas in this day and age, beauty can still be so real. As the quote reads, true beauty is able to shine through the flaws. It really allows us to know that beauty is something that can be attained (yes, even if you are not a supermodel!) It has to do with how you deal with your imperfections. Imperfections are completely normal, and those who never learn to deal with them don’t shine in the way that beauty should.
How should beauty shine then? It should shine when you’re doing something you love, when you’re hanging out with your friends, even when you eat your favorite dessert! It’s the natural glow that anyone can have when they smile. Cheesy, I know. But there’s a difference between that natural smile and the smile of someone masking their interior personality with their exterior beauty.