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Time to take Action

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The sad thing about life is: “The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.”

Credit: http://www.rogerknapp.com/inspire/highschool.htm

So, in the end, it is our job to motivate ourselves. I have a friend how is being really hard on herself about her grade in a class. She is starting to give up and she cries every day. I feel helpless… I can’t help her in that class. Me, not being her, can’t help her bring her self-esteem up. I can encourage her… which is what I have been doing but in the end, it is her thoughts that are making her feel that way. This experience has taught me that… everyone can encourage you and motivate you but it is YOU who has to take actions to make the changes necessary to do what you have to do. I am trying to motivate and encourage my friend as much as I can.. But I am also telling her that she has to take action too and make the difference in her grade.

-Pizza

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Anti-Bullying Awareness Day!

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Happy Anti-Bullying Awareness Day!

We know that this was actually yesterday but we shouldn’t restrict ourselves because of that. Although many of us here at Lynbrook don’t think about bullying, as we don’t encounter it very often, it’s still a huge dilemma in many schools across the country. It’s important for us to recognize that bullying does not only mean physical harassment.

A general definition of bullying would be forcing people to do things they are not willing to. We know that there is immense peer pressure that exists at our campus. Although it may not stand out as bullying, whenever we judge what others wear or do or force our friends to join a club with us, that is in fact bullying. A great way to fight against this is to change our everyday behavior in very minor actions.

Instead of telling someone their outfit sucks, don’t comment anything if you don’t like it. Everyone has their own style and taste. Instead of forcing your friend to accompany you to a club meeting, ask them if they would like to join. Give them a chance to decide, don’t be the one taking decisions on their behalf. Little changes like these can help make a big difference if everyone follows through!

One pressure I feel at school is with grades. Whenever I get a quiz or test back, most of my friends come to me to compare grades. Sometimes, I don’t do as well as I had hoped and I prefer not to share my grades, but the atmosphere of the class makes it really hard not to. People peak over my shoulder and try to glance at my paper. At this point, I kind of give up and share my grades, but not whole-heartedly. I am sure people don’t realize that they are doing this and it sometimes hurts others, but it’s about time everyone does. It’s time to speak out and express our true feelings about these pressures!

Peer pressure is a very subtle form of bullying and sometimes very hard for us to even tell that we are pressuring someone. The best way to stop ourselves from peer pressuring is to put ourselves in the other person’s show. Always remember one thing, “Be sure to taste your words before you spit them.” – BullyVille.com

-Love Panda

A Carpenter’s Gift: An Inspirational Story about Perseverance

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Once upon a time two brothers who lived on adjoining farms fell into conflict. It was the first serious rift in 40 years of farming side by side, sharing machinery, and trading labor and goods as needed without a hitch.

Then the long collaboration fell apart. It began with a small misunderstanding and it grew into a major difference, and finally it exploded into an exchange of bitter words followed by weeks of silence.

One morning there was a knock on John’s door. He opened it to find a man with a carpenter’s toolbox. “I’m looking for a few days work” he said.

“Perhaps you would have a few small jobs here and there. Could I help you?”

“Yes,” said the older brother. “I do have a job for you. Look across the creek at that farm. That’s my neighbor, in fact, it’s my younger brother. Last week there was a meadow between us and he took his bulldozer to the river levee and now there is a creek between us. Well, he may have done this to spite me, but I’ll go him one better. See that pile of lumber curing by the barn? I want you to build me a fence – an 8-foot fence – so I won’t need to see his place anymore. Cool him down, anyhow.”

The carpenter said, “I think I understand the situation. Show me the nails and the post-hole digger and I’ll be able to do a job that pleases you.”

The older brother had to go to town for supplies, so he helped the carpenter get the materials ready and then he was off for the day.

The carpenter worked hard all that day measuring, sawing, nailing.

About sunset when the farmer returned, the carpenter had just finished his job. The farmer’s eyes opened wide, his jaw dropped.

There was no fence there at all. It was a bridge… a bridge stretching from one side of the creek to the other! A fine piece of work handrails and all – and the neighbor, his younger brother, was coming across, his hand outstretched.

“You are quite a fellow to build this bridge after all I’ve said and done.”

The two brothers stood at each end of the bridge, and then they met in the middle, taking each other’s hand. They turned to see the carpenter hoist his toolbox on his shoulder. “No, wait! Stay a few days. I’ve a lot of other projects for you,” said the older brother.

“I’d love to stay on,” the carpenter said, “but, I have many more bridges to build.”
Source: http://www.askalana.com/stories/carpenter.shtml

“Never judge someone without knowing the whole story. You may think you understand, but you don’t.”

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“Never judge someone without knowing the whole story. You may think you understand, but you don’t.” -Anonymous

You don’t know me and I don’t know you. That is the unfortunate truth. And as much as I would love to get to know each and every one of you (I really would!!), we will never truly know a person’s full story. Even if we do, we may not know the whole thing. Not only is it important to respect a person’s privacy, but we should not judge them if they decide not to share their story.

For me, these cases have never truly hit home. I do, however, know people who chose to judge others based on appearances or what they first believe. It’s not that they want to be mean or insulting to someone, it just comes out of their mouth, sometimes on accident. Situations like those make me uncomfortable. I know the importance of seeing the good in people, and I always try my best to do that. I give people second or third chances because everyone deserves that. We don’t know a person’s full story, so it isn’t fair that we judge them on what little we do know.

In those cases where we do know what is going on, it still is important not to judge. Someone may be going through a rough time, and the last thing he or she needs are judgmental stares. My friends always know when I’m having a bad day. They may not ask me why, but they do not judge me because of how I behave around them. Instead they give me a warm hug, which is definitely something that is always needed in a person’s life. (Besides, who doesn’t like a hug from their friends?). We should be there for others as a kind friend, not as a judgmental peer.

Tips on how to be accepting of yourself and others

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  1. Don’t be afraid to be yourself: people will love you no matter what
  2. Everyone is still trying to find out who they truly are: This is the time in our lives to figure out who we are. We cannot do that if we are constantly afraid of what others think of us.
  3. It is important to know when to stop: There is a fine line between making a joke and actually hurting someone. Unfortunately, it is hard to tell when you have crossed that line. Be careful of what you say and to whom you say it to.
  4. Understand the importance of being kind: Sometimes, when someone is having a rough day, it can help to be there for that person with a kind heart.  

Don’t let them get to you!!: The more we listen to what people start to say about us, the more we believe them, even if what they have to say is not necessarily something good. Keep in mind the kindness you have within you, and don’t ever lose it!  

Don’t judge

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“Judging a person does not define who they are…it defines who you are” –Anonymous

I have always been careful when it comes to my opinions. I know that what I say, no matter how innocent I may perceive it to be, can affect a person. I know this because I have been on the receiving end of judgmental looks numerous times. It does not have to be solely based on my outfit or how I look, but also who I am on the inside. I have a very extravagant personality–or I like to believe so–and I understand that that can sometimes set people off. Because of how they treat me or look at me due to this, I change who I am to appear to whatever pleases them. This isn’t right, though.

By judging me, you are not giving me “character” or “helping me find myself,” you are actually determining who you are. You are not giving me a fair chance to prove myself to this world. Instead, you are simply hurting yourself by showcasing what kind of a person you can be.

August :)

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Welcome to August! The month of fresh beginnings, transitions, and friendships. What are you looking forward to this month?