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Friendship comes naturally!

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Friendship comes naturally

Today, I would like to share someone else’s story with you, rather than mine. It’s about a girl in my school. I never really knew her well, since she’s a sophomore and I’m a junior. However, when I heard her speech while she was running to be a part of student council, her message really hit home for me.

She talked about the way she was new to this area in middle school, and how it was hard for her to make friends. She used to be so unconfident in herself and her abilities, and she would constantly feel lonely because she was so new and didn’t make any friends right away. However, as time went on she met a few people, and she’s now proud to call them her best friends. Those friends helped her become more involved, and it was because she took the effort to talk to people and get to know them better, that people reciprocated her feelings. These friends gave her courage, the courage to speak out and voice her opinion. They gave her the emotional support that she needed to be able to stand up in front of the whole school that day and run for an officer position, when just a few years ago she used to be shy and reserved. When hearing her speech, I felt like I could connect to her on so many levels, and I’m sure many other people would as well.

If you’re having a hard time making friends, don’t stress over it too much. Real friendships will come naturally. And if you feel like you aren’t close to someone, take the time to talk to them more and get to know them better, because friends can change your life in positive ways you can’t even imagine.

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Challenge: Get to know a friend better!

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Challenge: Get to know a friend better

This can be someone you have just met recently, or an old friend that you never got close to. This can even be a family member.

Social Anxiety

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Definition: a chronic condition in which the individual finds social interactions so difficult that he or she avoids them completely.

Symptoms:

  • Emotional/behavioral
    • Fear of being judged
    • Worrying about embarrassment
    • Concern in offending someone
    • Avoiding doing thing/speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment  
  • Physical
    • Fast heartbeat
    • Trouble catching your breath
    • Muscle tension
    • Confusion or feeling out of body
  • Avoiding normal social situations (hard to endure)
    • Using a public restroom
    • Making eye contact
    • Attending parties or social gatherings
    • Initiating conversation


Statistics:

  • Social anxiety is fairly common: there are more than 200,000 new cases in the US every year.
  • The most common age group for social anxiety is wide, ranging from elementary school children to senior citizens. Very young children are rarely affected.

How to feel Better:

  • Don’t be afraid to get help! 36% of people with social anxiety symptoms don’t seek help until 10 or more years later. Social Anxiety can be treated, and many people find professional help beneficial.
  • Relaxation Exercises: Take deep breaths or meditate
  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT has been very successful. It guides a person’s thoughts more in a more rational direction, and helps them stop avoiding situations that cause anxiety.
  • Join a group: Anxiety is an unpleasant feeling, but no one has to go through it alone. Join a support group to meet new people and get through it together with them.
  • Medication: Medication can be used to treat social anxiety and minimize the physical symptoms like shaking or a rapid heartbeat.

Sources:

http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/mental-health-social-anxiety-disorder?page=3

http://www.adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/social-anxiety-disorder

http://socialphobia.org/social-anxiety-symptoms-and-treatment

http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/social-anxiety-disorder/basics/symptoms/con-20032524


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Working to live… or living to work?

Do you guys ever get caught up in everything? You have to finish your work… meet all the deadlines… stay extra hours…

I know many people who say that they regret not making memories or not spending enough time with someone. They regret it because they got too caught up at work and never made the time.

Work is important… it’s the way that we are able to live and supply the necessities to our families. But whats the point… if you don’t even have time to spend with your family? If you are just earning but not even seeing your child grow up. Yes, by earning you can make sure your loved ones have a comfortable and peaceful life… but shouldn’t you be spending time with them too?

I am not saying that your should quit your job… I am just saying don’t let your job be your life. Make time for other things.. try to balance things out 🙂

Here is an amazing video by Prince Ea that outlines the same concept… Hope you all like it!

 

 

Challenge Recap

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How did the challenge go for you? Were you able to do something for your friends? I’m sure your friends were extremely touched by your act of kindness. Leave a comment down below!

Winnie the Pooh Poem

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Winnie the Pooh’s Poem (A. A. Wilne)

If there ever comes a day

When we can’t be together,

Keep me in your heart,

I’ll stay there forever.

Your friends are your light…

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Knowing when you are in an unhealthy friendship is probably the most important part of any relationship. Sometimes it’s hard to tell while other times, it may be so blatantly obvious, but you still can’t see it because you are afraid of losing a friend.

Friends are supposed to be your light in the dark, supporting you through life. They aren’t supposed to discourage you from trying new things. They should be on your side, provide you with advice when you are going through a rough time, and protect you from making bad decisions. The tough part about being a friend is that it is hard to know when you are being discouraging, or a conscience for someone you care about. Nevertheless, you should talk to your friends if you are ever in an uncomfortable position with them. A true, caring friend will understand and help you.  

I have a friend that I met in Junior High. Because of our similarities, we became close friends in a short period of time. We share everything with each other and she is the best friend I can ever ask for. Because of how close we are, it is often hard for me to see the pessimist that often appears within her. She often discourages me from doing things I want to do, but I often cannot tell if it is because she wants what is best for me or not. Talking things out is the what helped the reason why I still consider her to be my best friend. I know that she cares about me and only wants to help me, because that is what a true friend is. Nevertheless, there are always situations where the decision is yours and it all comes down to what you want. Your friends are there to help guide you down the right path.