Silver Lining

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“Never judge someone without knowing the whole story. You may think you understand, but you don’t.”

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“Never judge someone without knowing the whole story. You may think you understand, but you don’t.” -Anonymous

You don’t know me and I don’t know you. That is the unfortunate truth. And as much as I would love to get to know each and every one of you (I really would!!), we will never truly know a person’s full story. Even if we do, we may not know the whole thing. Not only is it important to respect a person’s privacy, but we should not judge them if they decide not to share their story.

For me, these cases have never truly hit home. I do, however, know people who chose to judge others based on appearances or what they first believe. It’s not that they want to be mean or insulting to someone, it just comes out of their mouth, sometimes on accident. Situations like those make me uncomfortable. I know the importance of seeing the good in people, and I always try my best to do that. I give people second or third chances because everyone deserves that. We don’t know a person’s full story, so it isn’t fair that we judge them on what little we do know.

In those cases where we do know what is going on, it still is important not to judge. Someone may be going through a rough time, and the last thing he or she needs are judgmental stares. My friends always know when I’m having a bad day. They may not ask me why, but they do not judge me because of how I behave around them. Instead they give me a warm hug, which is definitely something that is always needed in a person’s life. (Besides, who doesn’t like a hug from their friends?). We should be there for others as a kind friend, not as a judgmental peer.

“Anything that gets your blood racing is probably worth doing.”

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“Anything that gets your blood racing is probably worth doing.” – Hunter S. Thompson

We’ve all had those moments in which we froze, and were tempted to turn back and stray away from the unknown,  back towards our own havens. Whether it be an uneasy rendez-vous, an unfamiliar experience, an unquestionable and shaky journey ahead, so many unsettling premonitions can cause your heart to skip beats and confidence to fall. Fall as they may, only you have the ability to pull yourself up and continue forward and wherever you end up, it will be worth it if you are proud of yourself for taking the chance and continuing on in the first place. As cliché as it may sound, you will truly never know what you can achieve if you don’t bother to try!

In all honesty, in order to even have the opportunity to achieve something great, and to create new and powerful memories that can be treasured forever, we must learn to trample our fears and step out to reach beyond our circle of comfort. Don’t just live vicariously, but rather reach  forward, do what you have always desired, and add some exhilarating elements to your own story! As with most aspects of life, what may come out of the exhilaration and risk may be a feeling of triumph, loss or something in between, but the rush felt and the feeling of knowing that you were able to reach the end and fight on is definitely worth it.

You don’t have to be naturally talented, fully confident, or even somewhat assured of the results to continue on with something that you love or even something that you might grow to love! Take risks with your head held high and give yourself the confidence to carry on and trek towards the unknown. Reaching clear-cut accomplishments or achievements don’t necessarily make the journey worth it, but the confidence that you build and the memories that you make are truly priceless, so don’t ever feel like the path you are on is worthless.

Everyday is a New Beginning.

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Everyday is a new beginning, take a deep breath and start again.

    This quote speaks to me on a whole new level. If ever you are feeling put down or stressed out, take a deep breath and start over. Everyday offers a new beginning; it is up to us to claim it and work to improve your fresh start.

My summers would always be filled with stress and anxiety because I felt that I was not “living to my full potential.” In other words, I never believed that I was doing anything productive. Although I am a person who prefers to spend the night watching a movie from the comfort of my own house, I would always feel guilty that I was not utilizing my summer break to meet some friends that are visiting from college or before anyone goes on a vacation to another country. Worst of all, I would always believe that I was not preparing myself for the upcoming year. Since I am someone who likes to get a head start on the school year, I would stress out if I was not doing something to help me with a class that I know I will have a hard time in. Little things like that would always have me wonder whether or not I was ready, or if I should give up parts of my break to focus on things I think I should be doing.

Eventually, I learned that there is only so much you can do. After long school year filled with stress and panic, it is not only good, but necessary to take the time off for one to relieve his or her anxiety. During days I felt that I was not being productive at all, I would tell myself to make a change the next day: go outside, paint something, read a book, anything that will help improve my productivity during the summer. If ever you feel like you are not being productive, try dedicating an hour everyday for you to do what you feel is necessary. If you are not able to, don’t freak out. Summer is there to take a break from the school year. You can always start over the next day.

The Greatest Weapon Against Stress

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“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” -William James

This quote speaks volumes to me, someone who (like most people) tends to overthink every situation. Stress is inevitable for all people, but we don’t realize that the majority of our stress actually comes from ourselves. One good example comes from my experience at dance auditions. Dancers go in, learn the choreography in a short amount of time, and prepare to perform in smaller groups in front of the judges- usually all under an hour.  Though I’ve been going to these auditions for almost two years now, the nerves that come from auditioning have never completely gone away. However, the best way I overcome these nerves is simply by choosing to think positively. I don’t think about how I compare to the other dancers, nor do I panic about how well I know the choreography. These little worries that come into your mind are just distractions, big “What if”s  that are not worth stressing about.

 

My first year of auditioning had me asking myself these “What if” questions, leading to self-doubt as a dancer. But the second year, I told myself that I was  an amazing dancer. I told myself that even if I went on stage and fell on my face, I would do it with pointed feet and a fabulous smile on my face. I told myself that I had no reason to put extra stress on myself; all I needed to do was dance. And it worked! I had more confidence in myself, remembered the entire combination, and was even hugged by my dance teachers who were surprised by my change in energy.

 

It’s natural to feel stress in a high-anxiety environment. But when you boil the situation down to its core, eliminating the stress you create for yourself, you can perform much better. We have the ability to “choose one thought over another”, so in everything you do, choose the thought that brings out your positive energy!

Make memories

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 Pictures aren’t what you’ll remember 50 years from now, memories are, so focus on making memories with the people who matter most to you.

      I’ve never really been one to take lots of pictures wherever I go. My Snapchat story is almost always empty, my Facebook only has older pictures of me, and I haven’t posted any new photos on my Instagram since December. It’s not that I never go anywhere or do anything interesting; I do, but I rarely take pictures of any of it. I always forget. I like taking pictures, but it’s never the first thing I do because it’s not that important to me. I’m always so immersed in where I am and what I’m doing, so I forget to do it most of the time. Pictures are great to remember where you’ve been, but I think the best way to remember is to enjoy it to the fullest and live in the moment. Pictures can capture a lot of things, but they can’t capture fun for you to relive, so live in the moment first and have as much fun as you can before pulling out that camera.