Silver Lining

A loving community finding the silver lining.

Invictus – by William Ernest Henley

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Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the Pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul.

Tips to Appear More Confident

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One thing my parents taught me is that even if I’m not confident about something, I need to act like I am, or I’ll let others walk all over me. This is actually a good way to become confident because if you act like you’re something all the time, you become that way. And the first step to being confident is looking confident in how you stand and walk.

 

  • Walk quickly, even if you’re not in a hurry. If you walk quickly all the time, even without a set destination, people will not know that you aren’t really going anywhere because they will see how fast you’re walking and assume that you do have a destination. Knowing where exactly you’re going is a characteristic of a confident person, so this will definitely help.
  • Stand tall with your head held high. As I say this, I don’t want you to act like you’re better than everyone, but I want you to think, “I am a valuable person worth respecting,” because it’ll help you feel confident, but not overconfident. Standing tall will help you feel confident and will make others respect you more; just try it right now. 🙂 You will also have better posture, which is good for your health as well. Simply imagine a string on your head, pulling you up.
  • When waiting for something, focus your attention at something so you won’t look “awkward.” One way that I do this is when I’m waiting for a ride home, I just stare at my phone, even if I’m not doing anything on it. I know, it sounds really weird and crazy, but hey, others don’t know that I’m actually not doing anything because I’m pretending that I have something important to look at. Others won’t think you look awkward because you look like you’re doing something.

 

With that last line, my last, more general tip is to do everything with purpose to show that you’re sure of yourself. That’s all, now get out there and be confident! These are just tips, so don’t feel a need to lose yourself in them. You are awesome already! Believe in yourself 🙂

 

Try your best to be confident

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For most of my life, I’ve felt that I wasn’t good enough for anything or anyone. It’s kept me from doing so much in life. Most of my memories from elementary school, in fact, involve me just reading on my own in the library because I was too nervous to make friends. Whenever I did make friends, I lived in fear that I would do something stupid and lose them somehow. I’m still terrified that it’ll happen and I’ll be left alone, and it gives me horrible anxiety. But I’ve gotten a lot better at making friends now all thanks to one really good friend that I made. She knew how I felt and she always encouraged me to go out and talk and make friends. I started doing it more and more and I really got better. When I saw how well I was doing, it made me so happy that I had come so far and I was actually able to make so many friends. Now I feel a lot better when I’m in a new place with new people because it’s a lot easier to talk to them and make friends. And it made me feel good that so many people wanted to be friends with me. If you want to become confident like I did, you need to try your best at everything you do.

Maintaining a Good Self-Esteem

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Feeling insecure about yourself? Need some positivity?

Read the article below for tips on how to love yourself.

http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2013/09/11/improve-self-esteem/