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A Carpenter’s Gift: An Inspirational Story about Perseverance

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Once upon a time two brothers who lived on adjoining farms fell into conflict. It was the first serious rift in 40 years of farming side by side, sharing machinery, and trading labor and goods as needed without a hitch.

Then the long collaboration fell apart. It began with a small misunderstanding and it grew into a major difference, and finally it exploded into an exchange of bitter words followed by weeks of silence.

One morning there was a knock on John’s door. He opened it to find a man with a carpenter’s toolbox. “I’m looking for a few days work” he said.

“Perhaps you would have a few small jobs here and there. Could I help you?”

“Yes,” said the older brother. “I do have a job for you. Look across the creek at that farm. That’s my neighbor, in fact, it’s my younger brother. Last week there was a meadow between us and he took his bulldozer to the river levee and now there is a creek between us. Well, he may have done this to spite me, but I’ll go him one better. See that pile of lumber curing by the barn? I want you to build me a fence – an 8-foot fence – so I won’t need to see his place anymore. Cool him down, anyhow.”

The carpenter said, “I think I understand the situation. Show me the nails and the post-hole digger and I’ll be able to do a job that pleases you.”

The older brother had to go to town for supplies, so he helped the carpenter get the materials ready and then he was off for the day.

The carpenter worked hard all that day measuring, sawing, nailing.

About sunset when the farmer returned, the carpenter had just finished his job. The farmer’s eyes opened wide, his jaw dropped.

There was no fence there at all. It was a bridge… a bridge stretching from one side of the creek to the other! A fine piece of work handrails and all – and the neighbor, his younger brother, was coming across, his hand outstretched.

“You are quite a fellow to build this bridge after all I’ve said and done.”

The two brothers stood at each end of the bridge, and then they met in the middle, taking each other’s hand. They turned to see the carpenter hoist his toolbox on his shoulder. “No, wait! Stay a few days. I’ve a lot of other projects for you,” said the older brother.

“I’d love to stay on,” the carpenter said, “but, I have many more bridges to build.”
Source: http://www.askalana.com/stories/carpenter.shtml

Tips on how to be accepting of yourself and others

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  1. Don’t be afraid to be yourself: people will love you no matter what
  2. Everyone is still trying to find out who they truly are: This is the time in our lives to figure out who we are. We cannot do that if we are constantly afraid of what others think of us.
  3. It is important to know when to stop: There is a fine line between making a joke and actually hurting someone. Unfortunately, it is hard to tell when you have crossed that line. Be careful of what you say and to whom you say it to.
  4. Understand the importance of being kind: Sometimes, when someone is having a rough day, it can help to be there for that person with a kind heart.  

Don’t let them get to you!!: The more we listen to what people start to say about us, the more we believe them, even if what they have to say is not necessarily something good. Keep in mind the kindness you have within you, and don’t ever lose it!  

What Is Family?

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Family is a beautiful thing, full of sacrifices and disagreements. Our hosts share their family experiences, in relation to our week’s theme.

Listen to the new podcast about family below:

Family Is Like A Circle

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A Family is Like a Circle // By Nicole M. O’Neil

A family is like a circle

the connection never ends

and even if at times it breaks

in time it always mends…

Family Is Not Always Blood

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“Family isn’t always blood. It’s the people in your life who want you in theirs. The ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile, and who love you no matter what.” – Anonymous

When people ask about family, we often assume it is the people related to us by blood. The people who live in the same house as us. The people we are obliged to love (haha). But I’m here telling you that in a sense, your family can be a choice. As the quote mentions, family really consists of anyone who will share with you their mutual unconditional love.

Therefore, my family isn’t just my siblings and my parents. My family includes: my closest friends who have been by my side when I was covered in tears (both happy and sad), my dance team that never fails to push me to my best potential, and of course my trusty pup who can cheer me up just by wagging her tail. These are the ones you want to call your family. And you have a choice of who you want to include in your family.

Cut out the negative influences, and bring in those you love, even if they aren’t directly related to you. Because family has no limits, and there’s nothing wrong with more love in the world!

Tips to a Happier Household

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  1. Eat dinner with the family.
  2. Increase communication (yes, the parents can learn to text!)
  3. Share what you learned that day with your family.
  4. Put down your phones and just listen.
  5. Ask them how their day is going.

FamILY

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“Ohana means family. Family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.” – Lilo and Stitch

Let’s be real. The first time I watched Lilo & Stitch as a child, all I could think about was how weird all of the aliens looked (especially the Grand Councilwoman!) and how awesome the ‘Hawaiian Rollercoaster Ride’ scene was. Upon rewatching the film, though, it became clear that the movie tells a story about family. We see the sisterly bond between Lilo and her sister as they navigate life without their parents, and we also see the familial bond Lilo shares with Stitch and the other aliens who aren’t necessarily related by blood.

 

Growing up in a bigger family amidst the fast pace of the Bay Area, I completely understand how we can get caught up in taking our family for granted. We find them unbearable and annoying in our times of stress, not realizing that they are actually the ones we need most. But we all grow up really quickly, and you might see your family start moving further apart. Not necessarily a strained distance, just a natural separation that comes with growing older.
DON’T FRET. Your family is always there for you (yes, your annoying siblings are stuck with you by blood!) If family truly means “nobody gets left behind or forgotten”, you know you will always have someone to lean on. Even with all the trouble going on in the world, it has always stuck with me how much love humans are capable of having. Your family is your support system, and it feels good to know that they will never leave you. Today, tell your family how much you love them.

Peace

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One step through the mesh sliding door, and I’m in a new world. One step onto the back porch, and I feel closer both physically and emotionally to clarity. My backyard is one of my favorite places to explore. There is a reassurance behind its contradiction, how the backyard is both an area of familiarity and exploration. Though my backyard is still a comfortable part of my house just steps from my living room, it’s strangely also a place that deserves more adventure.

I step out into the open, where I come across a nice patch of grass. There are shrubs and little stumps emulating the Japanese tea gardens that my mother loves (she had the backyard renovated to her liking). I’ve grown to know the pavement like the back of my hand, its uneven ridges forever imprinted from summer days dancing in the backyard. The view over the fence is beautiful, especially during the sunset.
But it’s the imperfections of my backyard that resonate most with me. For example, the apple tree and persimmon tree in the side yard that my grandfather planted from scratch have been a work in progress for almost 15 years now. The big oak tree that my parents threatened to cut down due to its size still remains, bringing the local squirrels to my backyard everyday. And then there’s the hole in the side of the fence that my dog has escaped through many times. It’s enlightening to look at these moments and notice the subtle memories that come from it.


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Working to live… or living to work?

Do you guys ever get caught up in everything? You have to finish your work… meet all the deadlines… stay extra hours…

I know many people who say that they regret not making memories or not spending enough time with someone. They regret it because they got too caught up at work and never made the time.

Work is important… it’s the way that we are able to live and supply the necessities to our families. But whats the point… if you don’t even have time to spend with your family? If you are just earning but not even seeing your child grow up. Yes, by earning you can make sure your loved ones have a comfortable and peaceful life… but shouldn’t you be spending time with them too?

I am not saying that your should quit your job… I am just saying don’t let your job be your life. Make time for other things.. try to balance things out 🙂

Here is an amazing video by Prince Ea that outlines the same concept… Hope you all like it!

 

 

Changing the world Starts with YOU!

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Isn’t it weird that as create technology to bring us closer we are actually more disconnected from the people close to us? Or as we are able to meet more kinds of people… the more we judge them? I am not saying this is true for everyone but I am not gonna lie that I have done so sometimes.

Sometimes people struggle to start a conversation just with another human but that is the most important part. Communication is very important especially face to face. Making connections and being human is what is important. We all should try not to be so influenced by technology… we should use it to our advantage not let it consume us.

This is an amazing thought provoking video talking about this “paradox of our generation” that comes with the use of technology. Jay Shetty explains his point of view very well. Even if you agree with it or not, I hope you can watch this video 🙂

Hope you have an amazing week ahead!