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Change is needed…

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“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.” – Gail Sheehy

 

I am personally someone who loves stability. I like to know what my schedule is hour-by-hour, what events are coming up at least a week beforehand, and that I will not have to be scrambling through the day with lots of changes that will mess up my routine. Though stability isn’t a bad thing, it’s even more important that we come to accept change and how beneficial it is to our being. Think about it: We wouldn’t live in the world we live in today if we did not embrace change.
Gradually, I’ve come to accept change based on Sheehy’s reasoning. If we don’t change, we never really learn how to live. We end up just walking around as human beings, going through monotony and trying to live on the safe side. But change is all about taking risks, and the biggest risks pay off. One particular example in my life pertains to the dance duet style I chose last year. Though it was clearly out of my comfort zone (my friends and teachers admitted that it definitely was not a style they expected me to compete with), I flew with it. I experimented with it and had the most fun making that change and seeing how it would work out. That experience left me feeling more empowered and matured as a dancer and a person. Life cannot exist without change.

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To become closer friends, be open with each other.

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To become closer friends, be open with each other.

Earlier this week, I talked about how I was afraid to tell my friends personal secrets because of how vulnerable I feel after that, since friendships rarely last forever. Well, today I’m going to continue with the story of that friend that I told my problems to.

Initially, I regretted telling her, because at that time, I’d only known her for a little under a year, and we didn’t see each other or talk that much. I felt like I was sharing too much of my problems even though we weren’t that close, and I was worried that I was just burdening her with my problems. But she never complained about it, and only thought of making me feel better. I still felt guilty, but telling her about what happened with me and my friends only made me realize how desperate I was to talk to someone about it, so I found that I couldn’t even stop myself. I felt so vulnerable and weak in front of her, so for a while after that, I was really nervous talking to her (she acted normal after though).

I stopped feeling bad when she told me about how worried she was for her future because she wanted to do so many things but at the same time, she wasn’t sure of anything. I realized that wanted to help her feel better, not because she helped me once (though it was part of the reason), but because it hurt to see her upset. I tried my hardest to let her know that she would be okay, and help her get her mind off her worries. I don’t know how much I actually helped, but she said that she felt a lot better after talking to me.

After that time, I started relying on her more. Trusting her more with what I couldn’t tell even my closest friends, and she told me her worries too. We opened up to each other, and it led to us understanding each other more. Because of that, we were able to become closer as friends. Today, I think of her as one of my best friends, and I don’t regret telling her about my problem back then, because now I found a real friend.

Challenge: Share something personal with a friend!

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Challenge: Share something personal with a friend, something you wouldn’t tell anyone else. They are there for you!

Story: Getting enough sleep isn’t impossible. Enjoy your rest!

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Story: Getting enough sleep isn’t impossible. Enjoy your rest!

It’s not impossible! I promise you, getting at least 8 hours of sleep every night is not impossible.

I realize that everyone has busy schedules, so it is hard to finish everything you have to do in order to get an appropriate amount of sleep. Procrastination gets us all. It is hard to go through an entire day of school where all we do is focus on our work, only to come home to do exactly the same thing. Taking a break and watching a movie may seem tempting, but it is important that we find the self control to finish everything we need to do.

I have always been a person who values my sleep, right from a young age. I place limits on myself so others do not have to tell me to go to bed or start working on my homework. By doing so, I have been able to get the right amount of sleep for me.

My friends are not one to value sleep as much as they should, and it worries me to see them exhausted and unenthusiastic the following day. There are always people who worry about you, wanting to make sure you get the proper rest you need. We do too! Please go and enjoy your rest!

Being kind matters…

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This is a touching story about the importance of friendship. It shows the results of being kind someone :)… It does make a difference!

“One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, “Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd.

I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on. As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him.

He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes. My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him and as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I handed him his glasses, I said, ‘Those guys are jerks. They really should get lives.’

He looked at me and said, ‘Hey thanks!’ There was a big smile on his face.

It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude. I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to private school before now. I would have never hung out with a private school kid before.

We talked all the way home, and I carried his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play football on Saturday with me and my friends. He said yes. We hung all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him. And my friends thought the same of him.

Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again.

I stopped him and said, ‘Damn boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!’ He just laughed and handed me half the books.

Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were seniors, began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown, and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business on a football scholarship.

Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn’t me having to get up there and speak. Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than me and all the girls loved him! Boy, sometimes I was jealous.

Today was one of those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and said, ‘Hey, big guy, you’ll be great!’ He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. ‘Thanks,’ he said. As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began.

‘Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach…but mostly your friends. I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them.

I am going to tell you a story.’ I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met.

He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn’t have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile. ‘Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable.’ I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realize it’s depth.

Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person’s life. For better or for worse. God puts us all in each other’s lives to impact one another in some way.”

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Originally written by John W. Schlatter

Be the Change…

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I’ve heard many people around me, including my own parents, say that there are so few people in this world whom you can actually trust. People generally put themselves first and do whatever they have to in order to better their own futures. We are losing trust in each other, not only because we are selfish and take advantage of each other, but mainly because we don’t really seem to care. I can’t even begin to describe how many times I’ve been obviously ill or upset, and no one said anything about it. I also remember seeing one girl trip and nearly fall on rocks, and no one but me asked her if she was okay. People don’t trust others because it seems like no one in the world cares; even if they do care, they don’t show it. That’s why it’s so important to be kind to others. Even if it doesn’t seem like it, your kind act can help others trust more, and be kind to others as well. We can’t keep waiting for people to start trusting others, we need to do something to help.

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