Silver Lining

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Don’t Judge before you know…

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Hello 🙂

I wanted to talk about judging others since I have been doing this a lot lately. I feel like there are others who do this too and I wanted to address this.

We have probably judged someone while not knowing anything about them or why they are doing so. I know I have, many times… sadly.

Yes, it’s good to judge someone to see if they will put you in danger but there is also a limit.

We are all entitled to our own opinion, but we shouldn’t cause others harm when we do judge.

I have seen many people just look at people and make a judgement that they are bad. They start to talk badly about them behind their backs, without knowing anything about where they come from or what they are going through. They just make an opinion about them too fast. These opinions that they make are not even based on the fact that the other person will hurt them.

I guess what I am trying to say is try to get to know someone before you make a judgement. You never know what they might be going through.

If you guys were wondering what TO DO so you don’t judge people that fast… here are some things that I do:

**The main thing is you have to notice that you are judging someone without really knowing them. This may be the hardest part but this is how I do it.

  • Then when you see yourself doing so, mentally tell yourself to STOP
  • Stand in the other person’s shoes and see WHY they may be doing what you were going to judge them for.
    • Think of some random possible reasons why you would be doing such a thing
  • Try to UNDERSTAND their situation and where they are from
  • If you really aren’t able to think in their terms. Go talk to them, try to get to know them!
    • This may actually end up making their day! You never know 🙂
  • But at the end, just be KIND and UNDERSTANDING since they might be in a tougher place than what you can even think of.

Weekly Challenge

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Starting this week, we will be posting weekly challenges every Monday. Give them a try and challenge yourself! 🙂 Have a deeper conversation with someone this week. Share about your past, present struggles, and future plans :). Get to know someone, beyond the normal.

Don’t Let Others Bring You Down

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It scares me sometimes how quickly friendships that were once as strong as steel can fade as quickly as fog when the sun comes out. I’ve been alone for a lot of my life, so I’ve always wanted to surround myself with a lot of friends, so I wouldn’t be alone anymore. But I learned that it doesn’t work that way. Even though I had a lot of friends, none of them were close. I found that I couldn’t trust them with anything. Worse yet, it was hard to stay close with everyone, and most of the friendships faded after a while. My loneliness didn’t get better, and I couldn’t tell anyone anything because I didn’t know them well enough to trust them with my problems, and I felt that I would just be a burden if I told them. I sometimes still feel that way. But now, I started focusing on keeping only one or two close friends, and I feel so comfortable and carefree around them. I also have started to feel like these friends will really listen to me and won’t think of me as a burden. I’m still scared that these friendships won’t last, and I’ll be alone again. But now, there are people who care for me and my well-being, people who I can talk to honestly and freely. For now at least, I’m not alone.

You Are Cared For

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A few months ago, I was randomly feeling down in the dumps. There was no reason to be unhappy. I had a great family, amazing friends, decent grades, and I live in a safe place. However, I just felt lonely and sad. Everyone else seemed to be having fun and hanging out with their friends. My friends were getting together on Halloween to watch some movies, and I just read the group chat. It wasn’t like I wasn’t invited, but no one reached out and asked me if I was coming. I felt forgotten. Every day I would impatiently wait for school to end so I could come home and sing sad songs as I played guitar. I wasn’t depressed and I didn’t feel worthless. Just forgotten and tired and down in the dumps. I wished for someone to chat me up or call me and just remember me. But no one did. Time passed, and I realized that a lot of people did care about me. One of my good friends always chats me up. My parents work all day to provide for me and my siblings. And so much more.

Even when you feel like no one cares about you, so stuck in your own negativity, remember that someone still cares. I care. Your family and friends care. Your teachers care. And we all want the best for you.

Cherish What You Have

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12366843_1643698415888900_1290741083_nYou can’t bring back what you’ve lost. Instead, think about what you still have.

I think this saying has a lot of meaning in many different ways, but I want all people going through a hard time due to some issue. We’ve all lost something or someone; whether it’s the chance to do well on a final or a friend, it’s happened to everybody. I’ve seen many people become incredibly stressed because they’ve lost something and can’t deal with it. In fact, just yesterday, a friend of mine was freaking out because she missed an opportunity to get extra credit and raise her grade, so she’d have more leeway for her final. It was hard to see because she was so stressed, and she’s that way almost all of the time. What she didn’t understand is that yes, she did miss that chance, but it’s not the end of the world. If she works hard, she can still do well on the final and in the class. I want her and all of you reading this to remember that even if you didn’t do well this semester, you can’t redo it. But you’ve worked so hard for all this time. You still have the final to make up for this semester. And even if you don’t do well, you’ve worked hard and you’ve tried your hardest, and that is something to be proud of. That’s something my dad always tells me: even if the results aren’t what you expected, you worked hard and there’s always next time. There will always be a second chance, and you are human. You are not expected to be perfect.

Also, for people struggling with loss of a friend or a family member, remember that you are not alone and it is okay to go to others for comfort. It’s hard to cope with a loss so permanent, so please do not try to just feel better. Other people are there for you and are worried about your well-being. They want you to be happy, so please remember that others do care about you and are still there to support you. Even if you lose someone, you will always have others there for you, and you are not alone.

No matter what, you are not alone.

Someone Cares About You

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I’m sure you’ve heard this many times by now, so much that it probably seems very cliche. But believe me- there is at least ONE human being who cares about you even the tiniest bit. You know why? Because I DO. I care about you. No matter who you are, where you come from, what race, religion, social status, gender, sexual orientation, or anything else you may hold or be a part of- I care about you. The mere fact that I’m writing this right now proves that even though I’m a complete stranger, even though I don’t really know who you are, I’m still thinking about you. I’m writing this in the hopes that I can be a tiny spark in the black hole called loneliness which someone may be having the misfortune to go through. And I can relate, because I’ve been through it too. Although my loneliness probably wasn’t nearly as severe as yours, I still know how it feels to be so alone that it seems as if no one in the world could give a crap about you. Even though I can’t put myself in your shoes and feel your pain, I can still try and help as much as possible. I hope that even these few words can make you feel the tiniest bit better, and I want you to know that my feelings and thoughts are there for the sole purpose of giving you comfort and relief. And although I can’t do much for you, I’m trying my best everyday to make even a small difference in the lives of others. It’s not just me, but so many other people I personally have the luck to know who are doing their best to improve the lives of so many people. So I hope that knowing this, YOU can feel some hope. Although you’re feeling dubious, have some trust and take my words into account- there’s someone out there who definitely cares about you.