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Don’t Give Up

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Don’t give up- the beginning is always the hardest, so let’s keep on going till the very end.

As a child, I had always had a fascination with the piano. I loved watching and hearing people play beautiful songs, their hands moving quickly over the keys. Soon enough, I developed a longing to learn it myself. But when I actually started taking piano lessons, my dreams were broken into pieces. Learning the piano was much harder than I thought it would be. And it didn’t get any better from there- when I took a long break from classes because of personal issues, it took me a while to get used the piano once I restarted my lessons. I had to skip levels to catch up, and I took a new certification test which required hours of practice learning multiple pieces. I started to get tired of the piano, and I didn’t find much joy in playing it anymore. But my friends told me that learning the piano is naturally hard, and it takes a while to get used to it. So I pushed through, and once I finished learning one of my pieces, I felt so happy. It was such a beautiful, romantic song, and I was ecstatic that I could play it whenever I wanted! I started regaining my love for piano, and I still continue lessons to this day. Although it’s hard, the benefits are huge. So if you’re struggling with something in your life as well, don’t give up right away- you never know how things might turn out!

Challenge Recap

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Please leave a comment on how the challenge has been for you! I hope it encouraged you to step out and ask for help if you need it 🙂 

Another reason to ask for help

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It’s common for people to not want others to know when they’re suffering. Most people I know are like this, and I am too. Whenever I’m going through a lot of stress or sadness or anxiety, I never tell anyone but just smile and pretend that I’m okay. I don’t really know why I or other people do this; I think it’s become a standard response for people to have today. But however standard it may be, it’s not healthy. You’re only human, you can only take so much struggling on your own. It’s important for you to remember that there are people around you who care about you and you can tell them what’s wrong and ask for help. I think that asking for help has somehow become associated with weakness, and people don’t ask others for help anymore, but I see people fall apart on their own and it’s horrible to see. I want to help the people I care about when they’re struggling, not just sit by and watch them suffer while they just pretend that they’re alright. I don’t want people to suffer this way when they can succeed with help. Just remember this: asking for help does not make you weak or inferior; it simply makes you human.

How to ask for help

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How to Ask for Help:

When you’re at your breaking point, or you’re struggling with something, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Here are a few steps we put together 🙂

  1. Realize that it’s going to be okay. Your helper will not judge you. They love you wholeheartedly and want to be there for you. They are waiting for you to reach out to them. It’s only going to get better from here on out.
  2. Think about who you want to ask. Someone you love, trust, and know loves you as well. This can be your parents, siblings, teachers, counselors, or friends.
  3. Realize that the only thing stopping you is yourself. Think of what will happen if you ask. Your helper will give you a big hug, give you the yummiest chocolates in the world, and assist you in your struggles. You won’t have to face it alone! The worst thing that can happen is that they say no; you won’t die because you’re asking. Even if they do say no (which is pretty unlikely because you’re so awesome and loved), there’s always someone else to ask. 🙂 But seriously, who could say no to such an awesome person? You’re great! ❤
  4. Figure out when you want to ask them. For me, it’s easiest to get things done right away, or else I’ll spend forever worrying about it. Others might just need to set a time and it’s all good. But don’t overthink it; everything will be fine. Your helper cares about you and won’t be bothered, even if you call them at 3am.
  5. Breathe. You’re taking a big step here, and I’m incredibly proud of you. If you’re getting worried about asking, just take a deep breathe. IInnnn, and outttt. Repeat. Smile. You got this.
  6. Go for it! It’s time. You are ready and everything is going to work out. You can do this. I believe in you.

Mistakes aren’t road blocks

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We are humans, and being humans, we strive to perfect ourselves. However, this is impossible because there is nothing keeping one thing from slipping and another from falling. If we were to be perfect, we would have to be like robots, not letting a single factor fall out of place. Robots are robots, but we are human. If we had the restricted properties of a robot, we might as well call ourselves androids. But we don’t, because we are human. Blessed with humanity, no one can be void of mistakes: an engineer will write the wrong code, a doctor will mess up procedures, a teacher will forget to update their website, and like many others, they will mess up. But instead of forever lying on the ground, they quickly dust themselves off and continue, as I have come to come to understand through my years of growth. Mistakes happen for a reason, and that reason should be to stand up for the next obstacle. If a certain trip-up happens, there is no reason that it won’t happen again, but when you find the problem and face it head – to – head, you own it. And you own it good. Tripping happens to every single person and all we have to do is to not only stand back up, but to continue forward on our paths. We may never achieve perfection, but we will always be closer with every step.

If you don’t take risks…

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My teachers have told me many times–and I bet they’ve told you too–take risks, because that’s the only way you’ll succeed. They are right. If you keep doing the same thing for your entire life, nothing will ever change or get better. For the longest time, I was like that. I never did anything new or different. I just did well in school and a few extracurriculars. I did the same thing every day and became numb to the world. I was just going through the motions of everything, and I never really had fun. Even the things that I enjoyed most, such as singing or being with friends weren’t as fun as they used to be, and I had to force myself to pretend that I was having fun, so people wouldn’t worry. I wasn’t depressed or anything; I was just bored with everything in my life. But around spring 2015, I started doing more. I worked harder for what I wanted. I joined temporary bands set up by my guitar teacher and played some gigs. I started recording songs to send out to record companies. I started writing, and considered minoring in music in college. Once I started doing more, I started having more fun. All of the new things that I was doing gave me excitement for my future. I still sometimes slip back into the repetitive boredom, but I now have more to look forward to, and more to work for than just getting into a good college, the same goal as everyone in my school. The new things that I’m doing make me different and give me hope that 30 years later, when I’m looking back at my high school years, I won’t have any regrets. Even if all of the things that I’m planning don’t work out, I took a risk. A risk that makes me different from all of the others around me who just want straight As and perfect SAT scores to get into a good college. The risks you take may not guarantee success, but they give you something to look forward to. 

Some Friendships Don’t Last Forever

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I’ve recently been through a lot of friend drama, and it’s making me too worried. Especially since it’s finals week; that just adds on stress that my mind can’t handle. Through the turmoil of the past couple weeks, I’ve lost a friendship which I thought I would last forever. I guess the other person didn’t just reciprocate my feelings. However, I did see the signs along the way – there were times I could tell she disliked me or disagreed with my opinions. It was a strained relationship, but the string has finally been broken. And although I feel some sadness and sorrow to know that I lost a friend, I feel like I’m finally free. Now that our relationship is over, I’ve noticed just how much of a burden it was to keep pulling through and convincing myself that she was truly a good friend. It was just an extra weight that was pulling me down, and now that it’s gone I feel so much better. Our friendship was something that just put more stress on both of us, and it was time to let go. Sometimes, it’s for the best interest of both people to end a friendship that wasn’t even beneficial in the first place. Let go of the unhealthy relationships in your life, and you’ll find yourself feeling much better afterwards.