Silver Lining

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The Road Not Taken…

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Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

 

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

 

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.

 

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

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Don’t be afraid to talk to others :)

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Ever since I was little, I was always worried about speaking to people. I constantly worried (and still do worry!) that I would say something wrong and be horribly judged for it. So I never really said much as a child. Whenever I played games with my friends, they were always the ones to choose the game and what I would do in the game because I rarely objected. There were a lot of times that I wasn’t having much fun because of this, but I was too nervous to say anything, so I only objected when I truly did not want to do something. I lived this way until the 4th grade, when I made two friends who really wanted me to tell them what I thought about the games we played. They always worried about me and whether or not I was having fun. For a while, I still didn’t say much, until one day when one of them said, “Please tell me if you’re having fun. It really matters a lot to me whether my friends are having fun.” It really encouraged me to start giving my opinion more in things. She made me realize that my real friends wouldn’t stop being friends with me so easily. Today, I still worry a lot about what I say, but now I’m not afraid to give me opinion.

Rejoice in what you’re going through

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No pain no gain, right? Although it might seem like a grim way to go about life, it’s undeniably true. There are many who will give up everything for something and suffer unimaginable set-backs but in the end, they achieve their dreams and are happy. To them, however, it isn’t the end product that they remember the most, but the process of getting there. I have seen this with my own eyes. As a child, I remember listening to piano songs performed perfectly by professional pianists (alliteration not intended) and wishing I could play like them. My first piano lesson consisted of me getting to know the piano teacher and playing my first note on the piano. Although practicing was annoying, all I could think about was learning to play famous songs. It was the anticipation and the excitement that kept me going for 11 years. I learned Fur Elise, the Nocturne, and many more. Every week, I would practice and practice to a point where my hands would start shaking but I loved every moment of it, because with every minute of playing, I would get closer to playing more difficult songs. Now, I’m really happy to say that I have played the songs I wanted to but most importantly, I have learned frustration and experienced the patience and dedication that comes out of it. It is hard to suffer and it might seem dark now, but once it is over, the air you breathe in will be the same but it will be coming out of a stronger person. Stay strong!

Don’t Give Up

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Don’t give up- the beginning is always the hardest, so let’s keep on going till the very end.

As a child, I had always had a fascination with the piano. I loved watching and hearing people play beautiful songs, their hands moving quickly over the keys. Soon enough, I developed a longing to learn it myself. But when I actually started taking piano lessons, my dreams were broken into pieces. Learning the piano was much harder than I thought it would be. And it didn’t get any better from there- when I took a long break from classes because of personal issues, it took me a while to get used the piano once I restarted my lessons. I had to skip levels to catch up, and I took a new certification test which required hours of practice learning multiple pieces. I started to get tired of the piano, and I didn’t find much joy in playing it anymore. But my friends told me that learning the piano is naturally hard, and it takes a while to get used to it. So I pushed through, and once I finished learning one of my pieces, I felt so happy. It was such a beautiful, romantic song, and I was ecstatic that I could play it whenever I wanted! I started regaining my love for piano, and I still continue lessons to this day. Although it’s hard, the benefits are huge. So if you’re struggling with something in your life as well, don’t give up right away- you never know how things might turn out!

Challenge Recap

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Please leave a comment on how the challenge has been for you! I hope it encouraged you to step out and ask for help if you need it 🙂 

Another reason to ask for help

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It’s common for people to not want others to know when they’re suffering. Most people I know are like this, and I am too. Whenever I’m going through a lot of stress or sadness or anxiety, I never tell anyone but just smile and pretend that I’m okay. I don’t really know why I or other people do this; I think it’s become a standard response for people to have today. But however standard it may be, it’s not healthy. You’re only human, you can only take so much struggling on your own. It’s important for you to remember that there are people around you who care about you and you can tell them what’s wrong and ask for help. I think that asking for help has somehow become associated with weakness, and people don’t ask others for help anymore, but I see people fall apart on their own and it’s horrible to see. I want to help the people I care about when they’re struggling, not just sit by and watch them suffer while they just pretend that they’re alright. I don’t want people to suffer this way when they can succeed with help. Just remember this: asking for help does not make you weak or inferior; it simply makes you human.

How to ask for help

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How to Ask for Help:

When you’re at your breaking point, or you’re struggling with something, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Here are a few steps we put together 🙂

  1. Realize that it’s going to be okay. Your helper will not judge you. They love you wholeheartedly and want to be there for you. They are waiting for you to reach out to them. It’s only going to get better from here on out.
  2. Think about who you want to ask. Someone you love, trust, and know loves you as well. This can be your parents, siblings, teachers, counselors, or friends.
  3. Realize that the only thing stopping you is yourself. Think of what will happen if you ask. Your helper will give you a big hug, give you the yummiest chocolates in the world, and assist you in your struggles. You won’t have to face it alone! The worst thing that can happen is that they say no; you won’t die because you’re asking. Even if they do say no (which is pretty unlikely because you’re so awesome and loved), there’s always someone else to ask. 🙂 But seriously, who could say no to such an awesome person? You’re great! ❤
  4. Figure out when you want to ask them. For me, it’s easiest to get things done right away, or else I’ll spend forever worrying about it. Others might just need to set a time and it’s all good. But don’t overthink it; everything will be fine. Your helper cares about you and won’t be bothered, even if you call them at 3am.
  5. Breathe. You’re taking a big step here, and I’m incredibly proud of you. If you’re getting worried about asking, just take a deep breathe. IInnnn, and outttt. Repeat. Smile. You got this.
  6. Go for it! It’s time. You are ready and everything is going to work out. You can do this. I believe in you.