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Just move forward

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“If you can’t fly, then run, if you can’t run, then walk, if you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.” — Martin Luther King Jr.

It’s all too easy to give up on something when it gets hard. I’ll even admit to giving up on so many things that I’ve lost count, but every time I give up, I’m filled with regret of how good I could have become. One in particular is Tae Kwon Do, which I did for years, even getting close to getting a black belt. The master even got one for me, with my name on it, and hung it up with other belts that were waiting to be earned. I loved Tae Kwon Do, and I wanted to reach black belt so bad, but I had to stop because I didn’t have time for it anymore, once I got to high school. And just like that, getting a black belt was over. Now that I’ll be leaving for college soon, I know it’s pointless to go back and try to get the belt, so now every time I see someone do martial arts, I think back to that black belt with my name on it, just hanging there, never earned, and I feel guilty for never going back to get it. What I wish I had done is rather than go three times a week, go once a week, and slowly work my way up to black belt. I didn’t have to keep going as often as I did before, as long as I made progress towards getting that black belt. That’s why I’m here to tell you that if you really love doing something or want something, but you don’t know if you can keep doing it, you can slow down, as long as you keep going.

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“A Fateful Encounter”

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As I was walking to work one morning, I came across a man sitting on the concrete ground, his back leaning against the wall. He appeared to be sleeping, but only someone with an eye for perception could tell that he was very much awake. A small cardboard sign lay at his side with the words, “Will work for food” written across it. Hoping he would not notice me or attempt to ask for money, I pretended to be intrigued with the blank screen of my smart phone, walking straight past him. Later that evening, as I stopped for dinner, I noticed the same man sitting across the street. Once again, he appeared motionless, with the small make-shift sign placed next to him. Confused, I approached the man.

“Are you following me?”

No answer.

I looked around, uncertain of what to do. In all my years of living in this city, I have never been in a situation such as this. I was tempted to walk away, ignore the man, and continue to live my life as I normally do, but there was something that resisted me from doing so.

“Here,” I said, reaching into my pocket and handing him a $10 bill.

Again, the man said nothing, nor did he take the money from my hand. He looked up and I got a clear glimpse of his face. His eyes were puffy and red, his skin cracked from the bitter cold. He had a large mat of hair that covered most of his face. I looked straight into his eyes; what once must have been a bright, clear blue was now replaced by a murky, dull grey.

“Here,” I repeated. “Take it.”

“I do not want your money.” His voice took me off guard. It was low and serious, with a twinge of exhaustion. He pointed to the sign. “I will work. I want to earn it.”

“I’m sorry. I can’t help you there.” And I turned back to my apartment. But before I knew what I was doing, I found myself standing in front of the man, gazing over him once more. There was something about him. In his eyes. The passion, the need to do good. Despite the dirty looks shot at him every day, this man is not what others make him out to be. I took a deep breath. “We’re hiring some busboys at my restaurant. Be at this address tomorrow morning, 8 A.M.” I smiled. “Don’t be late on your first day.”

That man is now considered to be one of the finest chefs in America. All because someone did not judge him for what he appeared to be.


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Happiness :)

Many people say that if you do what you want in life you will be happy. I truly believe that is true but apparently there was a study done which shows that happiness is a practice. You have to learn to be happy… Which is quite weird. But if you think about it… you are only happy while doing what you want because you are enjoying it… you have learned how to be happy doing it! Here is the article that talks about this very interesting view of Happiness 🙂

A Better Kind of Happiness By Will Storr

This is amazing “because it makes finding happiness a real possibility” 🙂

Hope you like it!


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Stopping the worry pendulum

During hard times we all shrink or fall back a little… here is some motivation for when you go through such a thing… and remember there is always someone there for you… I am there for you!

Where is my river of life leading to?  It’s not just my river as it has got tributaries in the form of kith and kin.   All the more the fears and anxieties soar up just at the dawn looking at the newspapers.  The screaming headlines in the front pages of our newspapers are enough to put any optimist in to a worry spiral.

The mind oscillates like a pendulum to the worries of the past and anxieties of the future and therefore quite restless in the present moment.  What is the way out to stop this pendulum effect and focus on the job at hand?  Especially when we do not wish to think of something that is unfavourable, the same scene occupies the center stage in our mind.  As we are busy seeing this picture, we are also unconsciously postponing our happiness which is present right at this moment.  Just look at this:

The science of problem says ‘while, problems go backwards we go forward’

Yes, it is so!  Do a timeline check from let’s say 2000 till now.  We can easily track many negative events, – the Y2K, 9/11, the Tsunami, the financial Tsunami of 2008,  26/11 and so on. We have weathered it all and still going on to face the fall out of the Brexit!  The same timeline holds good in our personal lives too where we have won against several odds. Therefore, the science of the problem says ‘we go forward’.

Welcome to the weekstarter that gives us a tip to stop the oscillating ‘worry pendulum.’

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Choose to See The Best

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The mirror tends to speak the
Truths that you’re too afraid to
Say out loud,
A blunt reminder of adventures lived,
Of years savored,
And of delicious moments ingested
Like fresh fruit,
Sweet and bright—
The mirror has no filter, but it’s
Most often just what we need—
Take a look and see…
Choose to see the best,
And do not fear its honesty,
But be glad that you’re alive to
Witness it.

—G. Boston

“Anything that gets your blood racing is probably worth doing.”

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“Anything that gets your blood racing is probably worth doing.” – Hunter S. Thompson

We’ve all had those moments in which we froze, and were tempted to turn back and stray away from the unknown,  back towards our own havens. Whether it be an uneasy rendez-vous, an unfamiliar experience, an unquestionable and shaky journey ahead, so many unsettling premonitions can cause your heart to skip beats and confidence to fall. Fall as they may, only you have the ability to pull yourself up and continue forward and wherever you end up, it will be worth it if you are proud of yourself for taking the chance and continuing on in the first place. As cliché as it may sound, you will truly never know what you can achieve if you don’t bother to try!

In all honesty, in order to even have the opportunity to achieve something great, and to create new and powerful memories that can be treasured forever, we must learn to trample our fears and step out to reach beyond our circle of comfort. Don’t just live vicariously, but rather reach  forward, do what you have always desired, and add some exhilarating elements to your own story! As with most aspects of life, what may come out of the exhilaration and risk may be a feeling of triumph, loss or something in between, but the rush felt and the feeling of knowing that you were able to reach the end and fight on is definitely worth it.

You don’t have to be naturally talented, fully confident, or even somewhat assured of the results to continue on with something that you love or even something that you might grow to love! Take risks with your head held high and give yourself the confidence to carry on and trek towards the unknown. Reaching clear-cut accomplishments or achievements don’t necessarily make the journey worth it, but the confidence that you build and the memories that you make are truly priceless, so don’t ever feel like the path you are on is worthless.

How to pursue your passion

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  • If you’re new to it and still don’t know a lot about it, it’s better late than never to start learning. If it’s something that you feel you really love and are passionate about, it won’t matter, and everyone has to start sometime.
  • Don’t get too caught up in it and forget about everything else. Even if you’re chasing your passion, you can’t just neglect everything else. Health is very important, considering how stressful it is to pursue a passion, and you can’t forget about friends and family who support you.
  • Patience is key; nothing happens overnight. ‘Nuff said.
  • It’s okay to ask others for help. This type of thing is by no means easy, and there is no shame in asking experienced others who probably struggled and asked for help as well.

 

Don’t give up. If it’s something you love and are truly passionate about, this will be self-evident.