Sometimes, bullies get to us. From a young age, we were all taught to ignore those making fun of us or “laugh it off.” Teachers and parents constantly told us to “ignore them” “tell them to leave you alone” or “walk away” and they all are great temporary solutions. It is not until we realize that nobody can make you feel like you deserve all those rude comments unless we let them. Confidence plays a major role in this. We have to know who we are if we want to be confident.
There have been multiple experiences in my life where I have been put down by someone else. In fifth grade, someone (a friend, nonetheless) told me that my naturally curly hair looked like a frizzy triangle on my head. After that day, I always wore my hair in a ponytail. In sixth grade, someone told me that my ponytails looked boring and dull. After that day, I always wore my hair in a braid or bun. In seventh grade, someone told me that my leggings were ugly and that I should wear jeans instead. After that day, I tortured myself to wear dark skinny jeans to school (but gave up after a week).
Those experiences definitely did not help my confidence. They made me feel less confident about myself. Soon, I realized that just because those people believed those things, does not mean that I have to believe those things too. After that day, I wore my hair however I wanted to. In freshman year of high school, I wore my naturally curly hair down for the first time since fifth grade. I found a way to wear leggings in way that made me want to take pictures of my outfits like how I saw inspirational models or actors do. I no longer worried about what others thought about me, just what I thought of myself. I did not let them make me feel inferior, and that definitely attributed to my confidence.